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[SayWhat]

This is going to be a very sad post.

Long story short:
Ex broke up, has a new one within a week. See the No Contact thread for more information.

For some more background. When I was 16, I had my first girlfriend, this lasted for three years when I broke up with her, I immediately had a new girlfriend, and this lasted for a year. She broke up with me and I was devastated, I was single for over 5 years when I met my latest ex. In these 5 years didn't even had sex or kiss with another girl.

The problem is I guess I'm too silent, not confident at all, or something I am completely oblivious about. I am good looking and have a good physique, I just can't attract any girls besides them knowing I'm good looking. I want to know what is wrong with me as I don't get it. My two latest exes both left me for someone else, someone more bad looking. We all know looks don't really matter, but I just don't understand why I can't even get the initial contact.

Another issue is that I don't see a bright future for me. Because of what I just said... I just want a loving family and a normal life. And I just can't seem to find it. Everyone I attract, for some reason they start to hate me after a while. I turn 27 shortly and I am no where.

Does the law of attraction truly work? You can think positive thoughts, but sometimes you just can't and just give in to the negative ones.

What am I doing wrong?

 

[jurry]

Hard to say without knowing you personally, but lack of confidence combined with being "silent" translates to me as "i'm a boring pvssy".

Attraction fades quickly as they realize you are a pushover and have nothing to offer to excite them other than your looks.

Confidence comes with experience and putting yourself out there again and again. Stay hungry stay foolish as steve jobs said, get out there and go after what you want.

 

[mangotot]

Sounds like some guy who has just been relying on his looks to get by and as a result never developed any character or personality. Everyone in life even good looking people have problems in life.

 

[Masculinity]

The Law of Attraction was created by someone who wanted to sell a product by getting people to believe that they can have more control over their lives. Like other posters have said, it sounds like you're doing well look-wise, but not interpersonally. Looks do matter; they are tools to get women hooked. However, most women will avoid AFCs like the plague, even if you're good looking. In short, it sounds like it's time to start making changes to your inner game, or how you feel about yourself internally.

I suggest reading the How to Pimp book that's available in the DJ Bible. You could also send me a personal message and I can send it to you. Aside from that, don't lose hope. Most of us have been in the same situation.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Saywhat....

The thing is, I had a lot of success in my earlier years too, I was the strong and silent type that women just seem to lap up. 'Looks' have been an advantage also.
Latterly I have come to realise the same as you though. Looks and charm get us so far, then we have to offer the world something else to back it up.

A few points, otherwise I just end up rambling on aimlessly....

1) Be interested, and you become interesting. You don't have to be interested in what others are interested in, just to please them. Simply have genuine interests of your own and show interest in others. You will attract people who share your interests.

2) Accept that, even though you make an effort with everyone, they won't all necessarily be your best friends. I have friends in their mid-forties who tell me that they can count the number of true friends they have on the fingers of one hand.

3) Owing to points one and two, become more discerning about the company you keep. A few years ago, I started living by a six month rule; that being, if I still like and respect you after 6 months, you can stay in my life. Otherwise, you are simply an acquaintance.

4) Positivity and appreciation counts for every aspect of life, not just attracting women and friends. For example, I hate to hear people b!tching about others these days, it makes me really uncomfortable. Owing to point three, if you keep the right people in your life, we have no reason to to b!tch about any of them.

5) Owing to point four, positive people attract other positive. No one really wants to hang out with a depressive, apart from other depressives. The only person you can rely on to respect you is yourself.