"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Improvement Thread Journal(Advice Needed!)

Hikapo

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Hi everyone. My name is Seet and I am 23. I decided to start this journal to embark a journey to better my life and with women.

Just a brief introduction, I am 5'10 135 lbs, Asian. Moved to California from Singapore 5 years ago. Living with my Aunt now. I go to Cal State University Northridge. Suffered from acne and video game addiction during the first 4 years. Just recovered last year and things has been picking up. Started working out, make new friends and get my life going.

Goals for me
1)Get to 150lbs of muscle. Started at 118 lbs--> Now 135lbs:cheer:
2)Get out there and start socializing more
3)Get to know woman and ask them out
4)Get my career goals going.

I am gonna post my journal that I kept in my drawer and write them out here.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Man I feel you, good luck with your goals. I'm in my senior year and I def need to start socializing more, just dont know where to start. Need to start talking to the females more too, I get a lot of looks but I get caught up in my head and b!tch out a lot lol. Good luck.
 

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The turning point of my life happened last year summer 2008. July 13th was the date.

Met this pretty blonde girl(HB 9 named Sarah) in my Political Science class. I only managed to talk to her with the help of my co-worker who is married(Armenian Girl HB 8.5). Turned out she is an attention wh*re who used me to boost her ego. I got oneitis and it took me 2 months to recover.

Ever since last year I started improving myself, work out, be more social and all that.
 

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September 17th 2008

Finally had the balls to talk to HB7.5(Croatian, name is Mladenka). Tapped her on the shoulder after my Anthropology class.

Seet: Hi(GAWD, I was nervous as heck), would you like to do the take home class assignment?
Mladenka: Sure, how did you do on the test?
Seet: I got a B. And you?
Mladenka: I got an A.
Seet: Nice, write down your number here so I can call you and we will do it sometime.
Mladenka: I lost my phone, I will give you my email instead. *bends down and writes her email on my paper.*

I checked out the whole package. A definite catch! :eek:

September 24th 2008

I got her number after class and tried to figure out a time to study together but she was busy that week. So I started texting her silly stuff.

Text Conversation

Seet: Hi, bumble bee would like to study with busy bee.
Mladenka: Lol, sure I am free after class.
Seet: Cool.
Mladenka: Remind me okay? ;p

October 1st 2008

Hung out with her and studied but didnt give her a hug. Just so you know, in my culture we barely give hugs so I am very uncomfortable with hugs.Trying to change that. I didnt kino her either. Gotta do that!

October 23rd 2008

Went to coffee with her after class.

Seet: So, what languages do you speak?
Mladenka: English, Croatian, German and Russian.
Seet: Nice! I know some German. GUTEN TAG!!!! :p
Mladenka: (laughing) that is pretty good!

More fluff talk. She is a pet lover. Has 6 pets. 2 dogs, 2 turtles, 1 fish and 1 hamster. She cant keep her hands off her iPhone. Pretty annoying.

Seet: Ok, I got to go now. It was fun.
Mladenka: Yea. Let me know if you want to study again ok?
Seet: Ok.

I was pretty happy but I didnt give her a hug. What a wimp.

November 14th 2008

We studied again but this time with another friend Scott. After we are done, she gave Scott a hug and looked at me. I sat there like an idiot. Didnt give her a hug again. She left. UGH.

That was it, next time I tried to get her out, she ignored my calls. I guess she was turned off by how I kept doing nothing. Got friendzoned. WELCOME TO FRIENDSVILLE!!!!

Learned some lessons here. Gotta show you like her!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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After that disappointment, I carried on with my planned workout and kept on getting bigger.

Then, I met another girl in my Physics class. Saucy HB 7(Chinese, named Jenny)
Got to know her by getting into the same lab group with her. But she has a boyfriend. UGH.

January 15th 2009

Conversation after class

Seet: Hey, how do you like the class so far?
Jenny: It's so boring.
Seet: I know. Makes me want to sleep!
Jenny: Whats your major?
Seet: Chemistry. So I can have chemistry with you :cool:
Jenny: What? (I guess she didnt get that!)
Seet: Hey, whats your number. We gotta hang out sometime.
Jenny: I have a boyfriend.
Seet: Uh, ok. :kick:

Oh well.
 

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January 12th 2009

Met HB6(Chinese, named Winnie) in my swimming class. Got her number and hung out with her after class. She wasnt the best looking girl, but she had a nerdy look that I found cute. Called her up again next week and I took her out on a date to----> ICE SKATING IN PASADENA!!!!

January 27th 2009

Hahahaha, we had a blast at the ice skating ring. I didnt know how to skate and made a fool of myself. She wasnt good at it but she knew how to skate at the least. I did touch her a few times on the shoulder and pretty much applied kino pretty good.

After the date, I took her to the park. :D

I had no idea how I pulled this off, but I think I have to say because I am horny that I can pull it off. We were talking in my car and this is what happened.

Seet: You wanna see something?
Winnie: What is it? (looking confused)
Seet: *Whipped out my dong.*
Winnie: eek! (the look on her face was priceless) :rockon:
Seet: (I was very nervous. My horniness just got the better of me)Show...Show me how you work this.

She gave me a handjob. You know what though, it wasnt that great. I have to say I could have done a better job myself.

But hey, I got something. Although I didnt get laid, I got something! weee .:crackup:
 

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After getting some action from Winnie, I felt that we didnt connect and nothing came of us.

I then went on a dry spell of scoring 0 dates till summer time. Nothing worth talking about written in my journal. I hit the gym hard from May till now.

Now that a new semester has started, I met HB8.5(blonde, named Angela). I have been checking her out since the start of the semester. She noticed and has been pretty receptive. Talked to her a few times. So today, I gathered my courage to ask her out. Go me! :box: :box: :box:

September 15th 2009

Seet: Hey Angela, what did you think of the teacher?
Angela: He is so boring! I wish he could speak with excitement.
Seet: Yea, his tone is level.
Angela: You meant monotone?
Seet: Yea.

So more fluff talk and got to know that she works with kids. I havent ask anyone out since Winnie, hence I got a little rusty. Got really nervous and I think I probably messed up because of that. She was playing with her hair and all that, but I doubt IOI's are any accurate at all huh?

Angela: Okay so I got to go to the financial aid office now.
Seet: (With a nervous voice) Hey Angela we gotta hang out sometime.
Angela: (Smiling)I do have a boyfriend, but if you want I can help you out with school work and stuff.
Seet: Ah ok.

I didnt number close her either. UGH. Anyone wanna help me out with this one? I think I probably got friendzoned. Any way with this one? I like her a lot. I seem to be very clueless when it comes to dating American girls. I either get nervous or stuff up.

But, I can also go for another chick in that class that also seem to be giving me eye contact. Any advice?
 
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