Important thing to remember: You dont need to get it ALL right

[I'm Joe Dirt]

One of the things I've noticed especially the last few weeks when I've been trying to do David DeAngelo's material is that you don't have to get it all right.

What I mean is that there are DJ ways to handle almost any situation, like if a girl says something you can do/say this great line and it helps you build attraction.

David DeAngelo has a ton of these, and I try to do as many as I can. What I have noticed, in a flash of the obvious, is that you don't have to get them ALL right for attraction to build.

Its kind of like performing a stage show, where if you make a mistake on stage if you're an actor or musician and you just keep going with it and keep the show going, it will be overlooked because while YOU know you made a mistake, the audience doesn't know that the particular line or part of the act wasn't supposed to go that way.

After some interactions I walked away beating myself up going "oh man I should've went with this story" or "oh I totally should've said this or that", but then I asked myself why was I doing that, I got the number afterall, so what does it matter that I missed 1 or 2 opportunities to do some canned routine or line?

I realized that it didn't matter that I didn't get it all right exactly, just as long as the jist of it was good. The few missed opportunities will never really register on her radar since she doesnt know what to look for, so if I can let it go it won't matter.

So guys, if any of you have the same problem I do, where you kind of regret or in retrospect beat yourself up over a situation or conversation because you had this great line or technique and you didn't get a chance to use it, or you totally screwed up a certain part of the interaction, just remember that it does not matter in the big picture.

A girl can still be attracted to someone who doesn't use these techniques or lines 100% of the time... just as long as you use them enough to get the desired results!

 

[Bible_Belt]

I got a HB's # yesterday, and in review, I did about ten things wrong and only a few right. But even then, I was probably still better than the next afc who does everything wrong. Most guys have no clue and are complete AFCs. The DJ learning curve is steep - the first few things one learns will go a long way.

My FR tip/ what I learned:
After you hand her the pen and paper and say "write down your number," shut up! The next words are "thank you" after she hands the paper back and you walk away. If you talk while she's writing, about anything you say comes off as nervous babbling. It's like a rule in sales, after you ask the closing question, the first side to speak or act loses.

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

I think this needs a bump.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Yeah, I think thats the jist of it there, that even if you do only a few things right its better than no things right.

I feel that a lot of tips and techniques and ways of handling situations are encoded in our minds in a do or die way, where if you screw up you screw up your whole chances with a girl, but in reality girls are far more flexible and the game isn't like a ballet dance or something where you make one wrong move and it screws the whole thing up, but more like a theather production, where as long as you get a good portion of it right and don't dwell on your mistakes they will be overlooked in retrospect, and maybe even go unnoticed as they happen if you are good at letting the show go on without a hiccup.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Of course, it's still ok if you do everything perfectly