“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Important Question - How can we know when you actually LOVE a girl?

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LOVE

not just AFC type one-itis or any of that bullshyt

but what is everyone's opinion of how to know that you actually DO love a girl and would be willing to settle down with her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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That's a good question.

I believe if you had enough experience with women in your life you can filter out the one that you totally connect with and "click" with. That's when you love a girl.
 

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See, what happens is this guy, he’s like a little kid with wings, but he’s very old and like a god or something. Anyhow he goes around and when he sees you looking at a girl and if he thinks that it’d be interesting to see what happens he shoots you with a little arrow, right into your heart. You’ll know when you’ve been hit because you will feel this burning sensation that begins in the center of your chest and spreads out, enveloping the whole of your being. You’ll then be looking at her and seeing her in a different light. She will appear to be prettier, more charming than she really is. In her presence the sensation will burn warmly. When she is gone, and especially for extended periods, the sensation will yearn for her return - for her presence is what fuels the fire. If her absence becomes permanent, the sensation dies in a manner that has the potential to violently rip one’s heart into pieces.
 

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When you don't just see her as part of your life, she is part of your life.
 

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i ask this because i currently have 2 plates im spinning who i feel i love.....and i dont see either of them going anywhere either, meaning they are both here to stay (and yes, i havent told them about each other, obviously)

both ARE part of my life, its almost like don juaning gone wrong lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I always ask myself "Would I take a bullet for her?" If the answer is yes, then I'm in Love.

So far I've been in love twice, the first girlfriend and the current one.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
I always ask myself "Would I take a bullet for her?" If the answer is yes, then I'm in Love.

So far I've been in love twice, the first girlfriend and the current one.

in other words, does her life matter more to you than your own?
 

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If you can cry for her in your sleep as you goto bed, then you love her. If the moonlight coming through your window lights up all of the clocks and appliances, then you love this woman you're struck by, you're thinking about.
 

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i ask this because i currently have 2 plates im spinning who i feel i love.....and i dont see either of them going anywhere either, meaning they are both here to stay (and yes, i havent told them about each other, obviously)

both ARE part of my life, its almost like don juaning gone wrong lol
Being a gung ho Don Juan would imply that you only pursue women for acts of sexual conquest. But there is a different perspective, as Wikipedia puts it, “…a man who genuinely loves every woman he seduces, with the gift to see the true beauty and intrinsic value of every woman.”
 

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It's a tough to say... it's not really something that can be explained. You just know it when it's there...and certainly when it's gone. There's no second guessing, and it hits you like a ton of bricks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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when u have a sudden urge to take care of her..

liek randomly it just pops into ur head, i shuld call her to see how she is
she has a big influence in the way you think....
 

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i believe that love is only felt after it has passed...
 

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Fluid said:
when u have a sudden urge to take care of her..

liek randomly it just pops into ur head, i shuld call her to see how she is
she has a big influence in the way you think....
yep. Especially the random call thing, if it's 11:00 PM or 2:00 AM, you just make that call. She doesn't answer and then asks you the next day why you called so late and you say, "I just Had to, I don't know why." Then you're fvcked for expressing your love for her [Mistake].
 

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Love describes the state in a relationship where you allow your emotions to over ride your logic... Love is only effective if both people in the relationship feel the same amount of love for each other, since the one who loves nor will often appear weak to the other person which results in a loss of respect and deterioration of the relationship..

Most men never really love and most women only love once then lose the ability once their heart has been broken one time,.
 

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in other words, does her life matter more to you than your own?
Yes.

If we were walking in the park and a guy had a gun to us trying to rob us, I would take the bullet for her if I loved her. If I didn't love her, I would not take that bullet. (i.e. 2nd gf would have been shot over and over)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Heres what I think. I think you love a girl when...

You miss her before shes even gone. When your with her you forget about all the bad things in your life and your just happy for that moment your with her. When you don't even want to have sex with other girls. When you are with her you get butterflies in your stomach and can't breath. When you think about her and just smile. When your with her you never want to leave.

Or when she swallows....
 
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LOVE

not just AFC type one-itis or any of that bullshyt

but what is everyone's opinion of how to know that you actually DO love a girl and would be willing to settle down with her?
When you are with her for a year or two without having sex!! You love others without sex - so it should be with a woman!!
 

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except for the guy who thinks love equals cutting off your c0ck, this is a cool thread
 

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My qualifier is always the following:

If I don't want her to be with anyone else but wouldn't care if she moved away, that's infatuation. If I would be heartbroken if she moved away, that's love.

Kind of corny, but I've been infatuated so many times I needed a simple rule of thumb to figure it out.

And the swallowing thing the other guy said too haha.
 

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Your thoughts and gut instinct feelings will be in harmony with eachother telling you she is safe to love and then you can love her.

If all the AFC within you has been killed off and you are now a DJ your mind will think this...

Mind:

-She's kind
-She's caring
-She's considerate
-She's unselfish
-She meets my minimum or maximum standards in looks
-She meets my minimum or maximum standards in bed
-She backs up her words of love towards me with consistent actions

Gut instinct feeling:

-No feeling she is putting on a mask of loving behaviour to trick me into a relationship with her to get my money or use me for some complex ego gratification only to discard me showing her true darkside behind the mask.
-No feeling she is secretly dangerous or a liar in any way.
-Absolute inner feeling that my mind's observations and thoughts of her are correct.

In short you know you're really in love with a woman when you can ask yourself if she meets all of these important requirements, think about each of them pertaining to her for five minutes then say yes to all of them without flinching.

Thats when its a mature worthy and true love, not some AFC oneitis idealization or mind games based absolute bullsh*t.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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