You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
) and all I have ever done was do bench presses on a flat bench with a...naturally wide grip...rather broad to hit the pecs more, but basically a grip im comfortable with...That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
madgame said:
Good points.madgame said:My chest is probably the most-well worked out part on my body (girls like it and I think it looks good too
The secret is committement and patience..I really feel like most people who start to work out worry WAY too much about little details, when 90% of them won't keep going if they have been lifting for a mere year and can't believe that they haven't accomplished what they wanted to accomplish yet (b/c building takes patience). Of course you have to take care a little so you dont overtrain..and that you work out properly....but all those little details dont really have that big an influence..