Importance of Leading

[marinetti]

Over the past year I've learned how important it is for guys to be leaders in interactions with women.

Quality women will not be the ones to suggest having sex, or kissing, or even giving out their phone numbers. Instead, they wait for the guy to make the move and follow his lead.

And even on a more basic level, they even match the energy and vibe a guy has when he approaches her. If he's nervous, she acts nervous. If he's quiet, she'll be quiet. But if he has a solid vibe, is confident, and makes 100% sure that she's aware he wants to talk to her, then she'll give him the same attention that he's giving her.

Or that leading a girl to the bar to get a drink is no different from leading her outside to talk where its quieter, or to another bar, or to your house, or to your bed. They all require the same confidence, the same clear gameplan, and the same feeling of leading man. The girl needs to feel comfortable following the guy.

Has anyone else here noticed this effect?

 

[5string]

Absolutely! Great post! Very well said. Kudos brother.

 

[pipe007]

you just described what happens around a good 80% of the game.
Leading is a display of alpha male qualities, and which woman is not attracted to that?

it displays self confidence all along, if you have self confidence you have high self esteem, you are probably a higher status person since you are used to getting what you want as evidence in your leadership position.

good post right to core.

 

[marinetti]

Thanks guys.

I think that the ability to lead women is an absolute core value when it comes to dating and managing successful relationships. By leading I feel I'm able to date the women I choose, instead of just whoever is looking to get laid.

Even something as simple as leading her from one part of the bar to another has a very powerful effect, it allows her to feel comfortable in following me - which is a prerequisite for good sex.