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Importance of expensive clothes in clubs/bars?

Teej

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I have a friend who gets laid a lot by picking up at clubs, and he swears by expensive name-brand clothing, like $300 Italian jeans. Now, he's good-looking and very well-spoken, so I'm not sure that he wouldn't do just as well without the ridiculously-priced clothes, but like I said he thinks they're very important. He's not rich and he still blows his money on this stuff... So what do you guys think; are these sorts of clothes a big plus or are they pretty irrelevant as long as your clothes are reasonably nice and fit properly?
 

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I think it's a big plus and important for your clothes to look good on you. I'm not sure that how much they cost matters or if even girls would necessarily notice in a club. If your not getting laid wearing decent looking clothes of average price then I highly doubt you will see any improvement with expensive designer clothes.

Since you say your friend is getting laid a lot, convincing him to wear "average clothes for a short while and see if there's any difference would answer that question best and potentially save him a lot of money. I think his clothes have little to do with his success.
 

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It does help but not crucial. If everyone else is in designer and you are not then there might be a handicap. You could exploit that however. You could stand out more.

Just look nice and neat. Women are looking at your appearance to judge your "danger" level. Some want a bit of danger, some less. What do you want in a woman? I'd say dress to attract what you want. If you say 'Anything, I just want to get laid' then just stand out a bit.
 

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Hmm, maybe your friend is like me and buys expensive designer clothing for HIMSELF, and not because he thinks he needs them to get laid. I buy designer clothing, because I love it! The quality, the fit, the label, everything! Sure it's expensive, and I spend most of my income on them, but still, they're great!
 
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