"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Importance of Diet

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In the past two weeks, I have developped a new appreciation for the difference a good diet makes.

For the past several months, I had been in the habit of eating a mostly vegetarian diet, along with vitamin supplements... and I was ALWAYS on the ball.

Then, I got the wonderful news that my boss hated me, and wanted me gone. (She litterally told me that to my face). So, in the past couple weeks since no work, I have had to go from living it large (nega-rich for those that have watched boiler room) to having to eat cheap (ie: unhealthy) food just to make ends meet.

Lets just say that after about 3-4 days of mostly kraft dinner, I felt just drained... to put it simply, I would have a hard time waking in the morning, etc., etc.

The difference is amazing, and the only difference in my lifestyle has been my eating habits have gone down... I wouldn't have believed it if I wasn't experiencing it in the moment.

The only thing I could compare the feeling to, would be smelling a flower... if you have never smelt a rose before, this is like describing that smell to you.

Don't downplay your eating habits...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I agree, good post.
 

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I Know what you mean i've just started to watch what i'm eating (after years of junk food) and am trying to get in better shape after only a few weeks of eating more healthy foods i already look and feel better (now if only i could give up smoking:D ).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SOrry about the azzhole boss. Get yourself a new job quickly so you can start eating better! Good luck.
 

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Thanks jake,

This is word for word what she told me (keep in mind I was biting my tongue the whole time) : 'I used to want to see you succeed, but then you leave the team stranded when we needed you most (I took a week off work to help my mom cleanup her house so she could get a roommate to help her with the bills), and then you expect to come back with the same love that you had when you left. I don't think so. Sure, you can go work on your own, but then one day you will see my picture on a billboard as a motivational speaker and it will make you sick to your stomach that youscrewed up your chance to learn from me.'

I actually have two interviews in the next week... going back to the ol bartending work. 1/4 the pay, 1/4 the stress.
 

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So pimp its scary said:
This is word for word what she told me (keep in mind I was biting my tongue the whole time) : 'I used to want to see you succeed, but then you leave the team stranded when we needed you most (I took a week off work to help my mom cleanup her house so she could get a roommate to help her with the bills), and then you expect to come back with the same love that you had when you left. I don't think so. Sure, you can go work on your own, but then one day you will see my picture on a billboard as a motivational speaker and it will make you sick to your stomach that you screwed up your chance to learn from me.'
What a delusional douchebag. After you secure another job, on your way out the door I would challenge your old boss to a bet. I would ask, "So how long do you think it will take for you to be on those billboards as a motivational speaker?" When she gives you an answer, go for the throat... "I'll take that action. I'll bet you $500 that you won't be on a billboard as a motivational speaker in a year. Hell, let's make it TWO years."

What an idiot.
 

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So pimp its scary said:
Thanks jake,

This is word for word what she told me (keep in mind I was biting my tongue the whole time) : 'I used to want to see you succeed, but then you leave the team stranded when we needed you most (I took a week off work to help my mom cleanup her house so she could get a roommate to help her with the bills), and then you expect to come back with the same love that you had when you left. I don't think so. Sure, you can go work on your own, but then one day you will see my picture on a billboard as a motivational speaker and it will make you sick to your stomach that youscrewed up your chance to learn from me.'

I actually have two interviews in the next week... going back to the ol bartending work. 1/4 the pay, 1/4 the stress.
your boss seems to be a really messed up personality:

1.add a lot of inferiority complex
2.add LOTS of ego
3.add some narcissistic traits as desired
4.add fat,milk sacs and a smelly hole
5.brew for 20 years
6.call 911 in case of food poisoning
 

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fruit is just flavored sugar, best to mostly avoid it. lintles are the best legumes, and even they need to be broken up or soaked, or you get a lot of gas and don't absorb the nutrients very well. Tuna, too often wind up with high levels of mercury in them, so best not have them more than 2x a week. Mix it up with salmon or that species that they make fake crab out of? I forget the name.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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