IMO the only way to have true confidence is to base it on internal things

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

bigdave17

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Apr 11, 2018

You can't have any real confidence/self esteem if you base it on how good you look, or how big your **** is or how big your muscles or how much money you make...there will always be someone better than you at everything

True self esteem and self confidence I think has to be based on you knowing that you're genuinely a great person, a standup man who lives life with honor and integrity and that any woman would love to be with you based on that alone

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.