immediate help

[whatdude]

ok i have a huge problem here, my girlfriend of 10 months is havein some serious issues... not with me but with family pressure with school, stress, and a bunch of other sh1t... she says she wants to take a break from me so she can focus on herself, because she admits that shes fvcked up in the head right now.

Im in love with her and i wanna spend the rest of my life with her... and she tells me that she cares for me too.. but she also said that she doesn't want me to wait for her.. that i could see other people. She said she just doesn't think she can continue a relationship, and that means with anybody.

So the advice that I need from you guys is what can i tell her to let her know that I'm here to help her and not put stress on her?... I want to ''win her back''.. please guys, i need any advice.. i love her... thank you

 

[musclyjerk]

She only 'cares' for you? Anyway..

Just do it, tell her fine that's what you will do.

It's your only hope of 'winning' her back if you ask me.

You're not there to help - she doesn't want you there while she 'sorts her head out' if that's what she's doing and doesn't just want to break up with you.

Live your life as if you've broken up and don't contact her.. let her contact you if she wants...... just don't make it too easy for her to come back in to your life again eh?

The Muscly Jerk

 

[Charm]

^ good advice. Let her loose and go do your own thing. She'll come back if you make her feel how badly she misses you.

 

[MacAvoy]

If you really want to spend the rest of your life with her, let her go and give her the space she needs. If she is worth her weight in salt, once she sorts through her personal problems, she'll see you for a caring and understanding guy. If you've been attractive and done things right in the past, she'll come back to you.

Telling her that you'll wait for her, that you'll be there for her, will do anything to help her through this will scream AFC and she'll drop you faster than you can start puttin your heart back together.

The best thing for you to do is treat her respectfully, then move on. If you don't, you won't be attractive to her if she thinks you've been waiting for her all this time. Women want the prize, they want what every other women wants, so make her want you.

Get out there and make her miss you.

 

[Maximus Rex]

That's a bunch of b.s. She probably wants to bang other guys. In that case you should go out and bang other chicks.

 

[whatdude]

i know i sound like a puzsy... but it hurts me so bad, and all im doing is thinking about her...i need to get her back

 

[Mental]

ok i have a huge problem here, my girlfriend of 10 months is havein some serious issues... not with me but with family pressure with school, stress, and a bunch of other sh1t... she says she wants to take a break from me so she can focus on herself, because she admits that shes fvcked up in the head right now.

Im in love with her and i wanna spend the rest of my life with her... and she tells me that she cares for me too.. but she also said that she doesn't want me to wait for her.. that i could see other people. She said she just doesn't think she can continue a relationship, and that means with anybody.

So the advice that I need from you guys is what can i tell her to let her know that I'm here to help her and not put stress on her?... I want to ''win her back''.. please guys, i need any advice.. i love her... thank you

She's full of it. This is an excuse to get rid of you (it's me, it's not you) kind of crap.

Go ahead. Leave.

1) It might be fun to hang out with your buddies that you might not have gotten to when you were with her. Get a little break.

2) Listen to her on this one. She wants out. Her choice. I know you're more emotionally into her, but notice she says "I "care" for you." She doesn't say love. Girls say love fairly quickly, in my experience. They toss it around very easily, and it means nothing (oddly enough, if a guy says it, even casually, he becomes weird, desperate and emotional in the woman's eyes).

You "love" her, but you can't have her. Sorry to say, life is tough. The best way to deal with it is pick yourself up and dust yourself off. Then go do other things. Get your mind off her.

I've got several women who for whatever reason, I couldn't get if I were the last man on earth. I really really want them. But I can't have them. Guess what? I try to take my mind off them, and I do other things. And I treat them the same as anyone else. If they change their minds, then perhaps someday, but I'm not counting on it. If it happens, and I'm available, fine.

3) Go out. Meet new people. Meet women. Let her go. Remember, if you truly love her, and she truly loves you, (though, again, this "I "CARE" for you" stuff personally gives me pause) you'll let her go. And if it's real, you two will be back together. Otherwise, it's not meant to be. And make her realize what she's lost. However, don't do it just to make her jealous (that's some manipulative woman-esque stuff there), do it because you're a fun guy. Learn to flirt again. Stare at women's beauty. And be glad you can.

 

[penkitten]

win her back by letting her go and going out and doing other stuff. keep yourself so busy that she wonders why you aren't ringing her phone off the hook and she will start calling you.

 

[Klippymitch]

Im going to tell you what she really means.

"I dont want to be with you anymore"

But hey if you want to keep her in a relationship with you I might be able to help. When she brings it up again. You have to question her about it until you back her into a corner where she can say "okay your right I dont want to date you anymore" or She will say "You're right we should stay togeter". It's more than likely she'll say the latter if you question her the right way. In a way that say's your trying to help her and you cant help her if you split-up.

Ask her if school is the the problem. There is a possiblility she might say "yes" than you can back her into the corner by "asking her if you can help?" and offer to study with her and give her advice. Basically just think up all the way's you can help her and back her into the corner by slick questioning. She'll either confess up to a lie or stay with you.