"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Immature or **** character trait?

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So I have learned that my ex gf, unlike any other girl I have ever dated, gets mad at me when she does something ****ty or wrong herself. Instead of feeling remorse or taking responsibility for saying or doing something she instead is mad at me (or anyone else ive noticed - siblings, coworkers) .

Looking back for example, After a great week , on the weekend the gf decides to have an emotional flip out over nothing and ruin the days plans. So monday I wasnt happy go lucky so she became mad at me because I was annoyed she ruined the day. Instead of being nice or sweet she just becomes mad and mean.

Looking back i have 100 examples of this. I even told her she was the only person i met who is mad at you when you are unhappy from her mistreating you.

What the **** kind of person is mad at you and mistreats you because u are not happy that they were ****ty in the first place?

Is this a bipolar trait or sociopathic?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It falls under gas lighting. So she makes a stench and does the poopy face like it's everyone but her. It's pretty $hitty behavior. If your not done with her spend more time on yourself. And the next time she ruins you guys plans drop her immature a$$ back home and do it with someone else or by yourself.
 

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Don't you get it it was your fault in the first place so why you should you be mad at her. Lol

Remember woman run on emotional logic not rational logic. Every time you expect their behaviour to be rational you won't get your needs met.
 

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Don't you get it it was your fault in the first place so why you should you be mad at her. Lol

Remember woman run on emotional logic not rational logic. Every time you expect their behaviour to be rational you won't get your needs met.
How do we mentally deal with this stuff? If we "care" how they "feel" it can be confusing for us.
 

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How do we mentally deal with this stuff? If we "care" how they "feel" it can be confusing for us.
Apparently we just suffer until not being able to take any more or we lose our minds all together.
Me i go single for years and just bang girls for a few months then trade them in for more.
Thats all they are worth
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I would make fun of her for this behavior, these her a little and threat her like a child (with she is) like there there (pating her head) or "behave or no ice cream tonight and so on"
 

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A book I found useful for understanding the various female behavior patterns and how to manage them was.

Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man

It's cheap and well worth the money.
 

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So I have learned that my ex gf, unlike any other girl I have ever dated, gets mad at me when she does something ****ty or wrong herself. Instead of feeling remorse or taking responsibility for saying or doing something she instead is mad at me (or anyone else ive noticed - siblings, coworkers) .

Looking back for example, After a great week , on the weekend the gf decides to have an emotional flip out over nothing and ruin the days plans. So monday I wasnt happy go lucky so she became mad at me because I was annoyed she ruined the day. Instead of being nice or sweet she just becomes mad and mean.

Looking back i have 100 examples of this. I even told her she was the only person i met who is mad at you when you are unhappy from her mistreating you.

What the **** kind of person is mad at you and mistreats you because u are not happy that they were ****ty in the first place?

Is this a bipolar trait or sociopathic?
Could be a cluster b trait such as sociopath or narcissist.

Bottom line she is definitely a selfish biatch and keep her as an ex. Don't go there again
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do we mentally deal with this stuff? If we "care" how they "feel" it can be confusing for us.
How do you deal with it? You giv le her 2 choices. 1. Grow the f#ck up and act like an adult or GTFO.

If they don't respect your boundaries this behaviour will just get worse
 

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How do you deal with it? You giv le her 2 choices. 1. Grow the f#ck up and act like an adult or GTFO.

If they don't respect your boundaries this behaviour will just get worse
So many of the "hot" ones physically act extra "dumb" just like a "dumb jock". It's not that they are completely rock headed, it's that they know they can get away with this crap.
 

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So many of the "hot" ones physically act extra "dumb" just like a "dumb jock". It's not that they are completely rock headed, it's that they know they can get away with this crap.
Yes. Too many people want to play games and they will as long as people let them get away with it.
 
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