Kineti[C]harm
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...at least it's very important…
I wanted to share yet another ASF post of mine with you. It might apply more to ASFrs since they tend to perfect everything and deal with alot of subjects not covered here (Delivering fast hard and correct) but still this applies to society at large so read if you like:
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I have no idea why I'm writing this but it's something I felt I had to get down on paper, something that has swirled inn and out of my consciousness for the past week or so. In it's basics you could say that Image is what you represent or how you are projected but if we dig deeper we find that what Image consists of is a large portion of the important factors of being a PUA.
When I've been reading through ASF or other sites for that matter like sosuave, thundercatslair etc I've seen everything from great posts on techniques, FRs, advanced methods, general questions and normally all these posts cover certain aspects. You will see many people try stuff, this, that, ask questions why this and that method worked etc and here is where Image comes inn. Image is the representation of your persona which covers things like:
- Inner game
- Outer game
- State of mind
- Style
- Voice
- Body-language
You can see Image as a pyramid, it's an amazing creation, it's strong, it's captivating and it's not something we have been able to understand fully how is built. What if one or more of the stones in a pyramid is off, breaks down or is a wrong size? The pyramid crumbles or will never end up built, this same goes for your Image. The most important thing with your image is CONGRUENCY which I think is lacking inn WAY too many people/PUAs.
To take some stupid but understandable examples, look at Martha Stewart. Her image was FLAWLESS, then one little thing got out and suddenly the image she had given off was no longer congruent, it was flawed and everything went downhill.
Take David Beckham, ever since he married Victoria he has been one of the biggest representatives of metrosexuals and male fashion. He has his image, it's thoroughly built. Now remember when he first appeared with pink nail-polish? Did that go against him, no it didn't. How many HETERO men could have pulled that of and gotten positive feedback like he did? Not many, but why? Because it's congruent with HIS IMAGE and his persona.
Now some of you probably know where I'm going with this. The reason as I see it as many people failing or having slow progression is because they do not have a congruent image or a feeling of who oneself is. You see if any of the parts of your image like style or body-language is not congruent or does not fit with the other parts you have a flawed Image and the pyramid crumbles. This is very important inn everything social in life. If you dress like you're a macdaddy/pimp or some player extreme but you don't have the inner game to represent or back it up, then your image is flawed because you're outer projection (The visible projection) is not congruent with the inner projection (vibe, persona and so forth). This is why I think people like TD, Mystery and others are so successful because everything about them is congruent, their image is who they are. This is also why naturals are successful because no part of their image is faked/forced, every part of their persona, projection and everything about them is congruent because they ARE their image.
This is why one must know who one self is and who one self wants to be(come). When reading around and seeing tips like peacocking, being this and that you should be very careful with applying these things without some consideration to how they fit into your image, how they fit you. If you change one thing then you must recalibrate everything to fit.
Image is a oneway street you could say and the only way any lack of congruency may work is if something like an inner extremity is hidden behind a outer low. Such as a really cool and funny persona behind a really bad look, this may present a girl with a pleasant surprise but would you not rather have the “full package”?
Image is actually very important on so many levels, even such a thing as an opener or a story told. See some people say TD, when he delivers an opener or a story it does not come of as trying, it does not come of as a lie or anything like that because it fits his style (use TD as example just because his openers and stories etc are seemingly so down it's natural).
Take clothing when you are going clubbing, are you inn “high energy partyboy” state or are you inn “laid back I want to relax and just chill” mood? If you are in the first state you don't come inn dressed inn with a black leather jacket and black sunglasses, boom your image is of.
Another very nice positive effect of a congruent and full image is that you are stating who you are, you stand your ground, show what kind of man you are. See when girls meet me they know from the get go just by looking at me from a distance what kind of guy I am, when they get closer everything is consistent with the first impressions and everything I say and do is a part of me and shows confidence in who I am and what kind of person I am. This shows A LOT of value and is a very admirable trait. Does this make you predictable? No it doesn't but it shows strength.
Think about it, discuss too if you want but I also hope you see the importance in this like I do.
- Kineti[c]harm
I wanted to share yet another ASF post of mine with you. It might apply more to ASFrs since they tend to perfect everything and deal with alot of subjects not covered here (Delivering fast hard and correct) but still this applies to society at large so read if you like:
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I have no idea why I'm writing this but it's something I felt I had to get down on paper, something that has swirled inn and out of my consciousness for the past week or so. In it's basics you could say that Image is what you represent or how you are projected but if we dig deeper we find that what Image consists of is a large portion of the important factors of being a PUA.
When I've been reading through ASF or other sites for that matter like sosuave, thundercatslair etc I've seen everything from great posts on techniques, FRs, advanced methods, general questions and normally all these posts cover certain aspects. You will see many people try stuff, this, that, ask questions why this and that method worked etc and here is where Image comes inn. Image is the representation of your persona which covers things like:
- Inner game
- Outer game
- State of mind
- Style
- Voice
- Body-language
You can see Image as a pyramid, it's an amazing creation, it's strong, it's captivating and it's not something we have been able to understand fully how is built. What if one or more of the stones in a pyramid is off, breaks down or is a wrong size? The pyramid crumbles or will never end up built, this same goes for your Image. The most important thing with your image is CONGRUENCY which I think is lacking inn WAY too many people/PUAs.
To take some stupid but understandable examples, look at Martha Stewart. Her image was FLAWLESS, then one little thing got out and suddenly the image she had given off was no longer congruent, it was flawed and everything went downhill.
Take David Beckham, ever since he married Victoria he has been one of the biggest representatives of metrosexuals and male fashion. He has his image, it's thoroughly built. Now remember when he first appeared with pink nail-polish? Did that go against him, no it didn't. How many HETERO men could have pulled that of and gotten positive feedback like he did? Not many, but why? Because it's congruent with HIS IMAGE and his persona.
Now some of you probably know where I'm going with this. The reason as I see it as many people failing or having slow progression is because they do not have a congruent image or a feeling of who oneself is. You see if any of the parts of your image like style or body-language is not congruent or does not fit with the other parts you have a flawed Image and the pyramid crumbles. This is very important inn everything social in life. If you dress like you're a macdaddy/pimp or some player extreme but you don't have the inner game to represent or back it up, then your image is flawed because you're outer projection (The visible projection) is not congruent with the inner projection (vibe, persona and so forth). This is why I think people like TD, Mystery and others are so successful because everything about them is congruent, their image is who they are. This is also why naturals are successful because no part of their image is faked/forced, every part of their persona, projection and everything about them is congruent because they ARE their image.
This is why one must know who one self is and who one self wants to be(come). When reading around and seeing tips like peacocking, being this and that you should be very careful with applying these things without some consideration to how they fit into your image, how they fit you. If you change one thing then you must recalibrate everything to fit.
Image is a oneway street you could say and the only way any lack of congruency may work is if something like an inner extremity is hidden behind a outer low. Such as a really cool and funny persona behind a really bad look, this may present a girl with a pleasant surprise but would you not rather have the “full package”?
Image is actually very important on so many levels, even such a thing as an opener or a story told. See some people say TD, when he delivers an opener or a story it does not come of as trying, it does not come of as a lie or anything like that because it fits his style (use TD as example just because his openers and stories etc are seemingly so down it's natural).
Take clothing when you are going clubbing, are you inn “high energy partyboy” state or are you inn “laid back I want to relax and just chill” mood? If you are in the first state you don't come inn dressed inn with a black leather jacket and black sunglasses, boom your image is of.
Another very nice positive effect of a congruent and full image is that you are stating who you are, you stand your ground, show what kind of man you are. See when girls meet me they know from the get go just by looking at me from a distance what kind of guy I am, when they get closer everything is consistent with the first impressions and everything I say and do is a part of me and shows confidence in who I am and what kind of person I am. This shows A LOT of value and is a very admirable trait. Does this make you predictable? No it doesn't but it shows strength.
Think about it, discuss too if you want but I also hope you see the importance in this like I do.
- Kineti[c]harm
