"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ima boring guy...feeling kinda down now, any tips?

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Just got back from pm class and i am exhausted...and i think i need a drink.

But anyways, a couple days ago, this girl from the same class as today's hit on me and introduced herself...which really stroked my ego. so yesterday she called me to ask about the project due today. I explained to her what was due, and she asked if i was busy, i said yea...so got off fone. Then today somehow her boytoy or friend was able to get into the same class as ours, and he sat next to her mostly, and chatted. Today there were still small signs of interest, but not as much as the first day. and i reciprocated the same also.

And in the same class there was a girl who was in front of me. was all uptight and uncomfortable being next to me. kept looking to the side and once in awhile checking in on me. any time i spoke to my friend she looked back. left the room for a bit and came back with her hair down and wavy.

Girl #A (hb5/6) - maybe i dont care enough to show signs of interest, or i am the way i am so i dont appear needy or too interested. I admit i dont have super IL in this girl, maybe i just wanna settle with what i can get. I know i could do better but im tired of being lonely. I thought thats how it works? show minimal IL to girl and receive high IL = challenge. If we both showed high IL in each other, either one gets bored eventually no?

Girl #B (hb6/7) - walked by me a few times in class. And even walked by her in the staircase after class. didnt say hi. I'm not really interested in her. But it kills my ego knowing i cant say hi (guess i suck at ice breakers), but then i know im also lying to myself to have a facade of being interested when in fact im not.

Only on days where i feel really good or not give a crap, does my personality go wacky and humorous.But it also appears to me i have a boring personality in general with new girls. and occasionally with friends.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you think you're boring you probly are. Find a cool hobby or hang out with more interesting people that way you always have something to talk. The people you hang you with influence you more than you think.
 

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Sometimes it s_cks being lonley, but then sometimes it s_cks being with someone you don't realy like...


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