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@Amante Silvestre stated your reputation precedes you. I take what you said earlier in this thread about
having no issues picking up women or getting casual sex easily. You stated yourself that you are spoiled this way and that women chase you, pay your way & etc. You have also noted you have "Chad" good looks and are physically appealing.
Yeah but I certainly don't talk about any of this with anyone in the group. They don't know these things although they may infer that it happens.
The way you deal with this is as I stated earlier in the thread. Be pleasant but initiate interactions & then excuse yourself to circulate & hang with the guys. You are instead allowing women to monopolize your attention and you like the attention & validation when they squabble over you.
I've tried this many times. Their behavior is very childish, passive aggressive, or even overtly attempt to undermine my "reputation" whatever that might mean to them. I've gone over this many times. Even if they want to be "cool" with me the humiliation of losing girls to me, or even being in the room with a much better looking guy causes them to lose their composure in the ugliest and most pathetic of ways.
I give these guys the benefit of the doubt a second third fourth infinite number of times.
That should pass as you mature. You already dislike the squabbling. The problem is (it seems to me) that you haven't met a woman who can be pleasant but have a take it or leave it attitude toward you...and that is what you need. A woman who can take or leave you based on appearance is a woman who will be accustomed to very good looking men.
That feels like a little bit of a potshot although I doubt it was intended that way. I get this from time to time from women who want me to commit to them. They try to "shame" me into a relationship, saying a commitment to them is a form of "maturity." Obviously, I disagree. I've been in several long relationships with women and did not feel the desire to stray.
I haven't met any women who give me reason to commit recently, and I'm fine with that. I won't commit because someone else wants me to or because they think it reflects my level of maturity.
Seems like the women in your social circle are sniping at one another over you out of their own insecurities. Not cool assuming you are reading all the cues accurately. You need a chick who has no need of doing that.
Actually the girls are sniping at ME when they are jealous when I talk to other girls. They'll blurt out something rude or obnoxious meant as a putdown, or some form of shaming.
I'm not saying players are bad guys. Personally I think players are great fun. I know a number personally (mostly as pals) and as I've noted I'm dating one now about 14 months in. He knows he can get plenty of random strange. He knows he can always go back to that. Obviously I know that as well. Often enough players are men who know the game extremely well, but also who get bored with the emptiness that endless pursuit of sex for the sake of sex brings. And so they begin to adjust their value system over time if they realize they prefer a partnership & companion. Not all of them reach that point but many do after a time of pleasure pursuits.
I don't consider myself a player. I don't have a girlfriend at the moment but I have had several before and I was not the type to cheat. I don't even know what 'player' means actually. Most women are players unapologetically and no one can criticize them for it. They can always say the guy was abusive or an a s s hole or that she just wasn't fulfilled and everyone will just feel sorry for her and accept her justification. There is way too much hypocrisy in use of this term which is why I don't accept the validity of it unless it is applied equally.
If there truly are not suitable women in your environs really consider changing your locale.
You are unattached and have the luxury to go elsewhere. Use that to your advantage both in withdrawing your presence from the cess pool locally and in exploring an alternative locale.
Sure this sounds like excellent feedback. I've already done plenty of exploring. I discussed it a bit before but was shocked at how one of my favorite cities out of town has gotten nearly as bad as my current location. I considered this other city to be an oasis where I could escape from the local problems. Now it has many of the same problems as my current location. It's actually shocked me how much it's changed in 2 or 3 years time.
I won't go into specifics for now, but a lot of what I consider unpleasant locally is true of the other cities I visit. Many of the cities I considered to be 'must visit' have been devastated by drugs, illegal immigration and exploding cost of living.
Take Austin, TX for example. It used to be a one of the great iconic hipster towns. And relatively affordable. Now it's being turned into Silicon Valley Lite. It will soon be swamped with immigrants from Pakistan and India, in addition to the huge illegal mexican population. The gender balance will become extremely skewed. The cost of housing will go through the roof. I doubt it's even worth visiting anymore based upon recent vids I've seen about the city.
At this rate, I'm not even sure the US can even sustain itself as a viable society.
