Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm trying to look at this logically but...

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My Name is Nobody said:
I agree with ignoring her, it will drive her nuts.

After all, I'm supposed to be out with another woman right now, because when this one didn't answer my call, I called up my other plate, and we are out having fun right now.

I know this isn't reality, but it should be. You know what I mean?
It's not about her. It's about you. When you're watching out for what's best for you, that's what's attractive. Girls like a guy who doesn't put up with crap.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My Name is Nobody said:
When you call a girl and leave a v/m, but instead of returning your call, she sends you a text 2 hours later saying "sorry I missed your call, how are you?"

How do you act in that situation?
How would you act? There is nothing to really to act about. If she missed your call big deal. She was probably busy. She noticed you called and got back to you right? But, through a txt message...

So, you can either call her back or respond to her text.

Unless, she wants to text you instead of calling because of other guys in the background. and doesn't want you to hear them. :rolleyes:

IMO girls just like texting instead of calling.
 
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Mavrick said:
It's not about her. It's about you. When you're watching out for what's best for you, that's what's attractive. Girls like a guy who doesn't put up with crap.

Yeah, and I have a feeling if I reply to her text with something gay and AFC like most guys do:

"I'm fine how are you?"

It won't go over too well.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Yeah, and I have a feeling if I reply to her text with something gay and AFC like most guys do:

"I'm fine how are you?"

It won't go over too well.
You went through the effort to call her, but she hasn't reciprocated. If she was truly sorry, she would really show it. So, let her show you.
 
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Mavrick said:
You went through the effort to call her, but she hasn't reciprocated. If she was truly sorry, she would really show it. So, let her show you.

Well, at least I got a text reply. It's better than nothing at all.

And she just texted me again saying she's been busy "hanging out with her fam" all day.

So I can't say she has not recriprocated at all.

I'm just not going to fall into the text trap with another female. They all want to make cell phone texting the main method of communicating, and I can't take it anymore.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mavrick said:
You went through the effort to call her, but she hasn't reciprocated. If she was truly sorry, she would really show it. So, let her show you.
That's a good point. If I call my girlfriend and she missed my call she always calls me back.
 
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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
That's a good point. If I call my girlfriend and she missed my call she always calls me back.
The difference here is she is not my girlfriend. We have been on one date.
 
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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
How would you act? There is nothing to really to act about. If she missed your call big deal. She was probably busy. She noticed you called and got back to you right? But, through a txt message...

So, you can either call her back or respond to her text.

Unless, she wants to text you instead of calling because of other guys in the background. and doesn't want you to hear them. :rolleyes:

IMO girls just like texting instead of calling.

OK I can dig that.... but how would you reply to this and not sound AFC?

After all we are supposed to be busy men not waiting around and replying to text messages like a high school girl.
 

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Look how crazy dudes on this site are getting over a text not being returned
uh huh... and after what???? Just FIVE hours? Oh my! The sky is falling. Sell everything! Put the kids in the lifeboat! Sound the alarm!

Yeah, yeah... watch: he'll say "well, you see, the thing is, she was in the habit of returning my calls promptly so this stood out as unusual"...

The REAL answer is "Have Patience".

instead of returning your call, she sends you a text 2 hours later saying "sorry I missed your call, how are you?"
It's taken me a while, but I think I cracked the woman-code for what "how are you" means when they say that. If I'm correct, it may mean: "I don't know where I stand with you, so I'm testing the waters and seeing if I can engage you so I may determine where things are at with us."
 
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Mr. Me said:
uh huh... and after what???? Just FIVE hours? Oh my! The sky is falling. Sell everything! Put the kids in the lifeboat! Sound the alarm!

Yeah, yeah... watch: he'll say "well, you see, the thing is, she was in the habit of returning my calls promptly so this stood out as unusual"...

The REAL answer is "Have Patience".



It's taken me a while, but I think I cracked the woman-code for what "how are you" means when they say that. If I'm correct, it may mean: "I don't know where I stand with you, so I'm testing the waters and seeing if I can engage you so I may determine where things are at with us."

Well, I'm going through my notes and devising a reply that is sure to make her laugh out loud.

The only thing you can do when women throw you a curveball, is to make them laugh. If you can do that, you are in. :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Personally I'm not a fan of text messaging. You can't tell things over a text message like emotion, sarcasm, and so forth.

Besides, you don't want to be too accessible. Scarcity helps create value.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Well, I'm going through my notes and devising a reply that is sure to make her laugh out loud.

The only thing you can do when women throw you a curveball, is to make them laugh. If you can do that, you are in. :up:
NOTES??!?!? Get with it man. It's not about her, it's about you. Is she winning you over? Really? What the heck is she doing to deserve your attention? Once you figure out what that question really means, you're on track to being a Don Juan. You are the prize, not her. She hasn't earned anything from you, and she knows it. If you do anything short of letting her earn you, then she'll know exactly what type of AVERAGE FRUSTRATED CHUMP you are.
 
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NOTES??!?!? Get with it man. It's not about her, it's about you. Is she winning you over? Really? What the heck is she doing to deserve your attention? Once you figure out what that question really means, you're on track to being a Don Juan. You are the prize, not her. She hasn't earned anything from you, and she knows it. If you do anything short of letting her earn you, then she'll know exactly what type of AVERAGE FRUSTRATED CHUMP you are.

She's been chasing me since day one, because I make her laugh.
 

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Mavrick said:
Dude, don't let a woman get the best of you. The last thing you should worry about is whether a woman has texted you back or not. If you were the prize (or the catch) you would look at the situation totally differently. You'd have so much going for you that you wouldn't let her phase you.

Where is your strength? Are you a man or a wimp. Do you let other people's action control your thoughts and emotions or do you control them? Once you've given her the power that you're actually giving her now, she'll be so over you and swinging to the next branch.

This woman has her own life, and she will get back to you, but until then you can't let her know that is getting to you. In fact, it shouldn't be getting to you. You need to look deep inside yourself and find out why your feeling like this. There is a deeper issue you need to work out with yourself, and she's not to blame.
Yes everything you say is correct Mavrick. Even though I've really improved myself over the last few months there was still doubts when I didn't receive a message. Used to that happening before but I have other plates I'm spinning at the moment so it wouldn't have hit me too bad.

The date went very well because for the first time it was clear to me I had to have a higher value mindset and thats what I had on the date.

She certainly won't be getting my power! I've made that mistake a few times but never again. :up:
 
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