"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm trying to hard to not care, I really am.

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i am me

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Originally posted by whyshy
About one of the worst advice you can give.

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm
I think it's good advice. When I say "be yourself", I mean to just "let things flow". Don't just stand there thinking of things to say just so you can look cool. I also said to work on self-improvement in your spare time so YOURSELF would actually be something girls want.

Whoever wrote that article is just a person like me and you so they have their own opinion. It doesn't mean they're right just because they have it posted on some website. That means that I'm not necessarilly right too...but it's your decision. I know it's advice that helped me...
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
The toughest guy you knows was once a little boy who cried and played with toys, but through some form of motivation he changed.

You need to surround yourself with a different envioronment to start thinking different. Like homey said earlier rent movies like fight club, brave heart, the lord of the rings with the big battle,
He says get the Lord of the Rings with the big battle, but IMO, they all have some pretty big battles. I like the third one best, it has some awesome scenes, and the music drives me insane.

I really love the music in movies like LOTR, and stuff. They are really moving.

Of course, I used to listen to emo music, in my old days, with AFC lyrics, even though the artists got chicks, but I worshiped the stuff.

Now I still listen to emo, and depressing, because I really like it, and am still somewhat emo, but I also listen to inspirational rap, and anything that can get me pumped. Hell, listen to hair metal from the 80's. I really love Motely Crue, and I also like Pink Floyd, though they aren't exactly hair metal.

Juat listen to any music, and really get into it. Besides just knowing how to play Sax, why don't you learn drums, or gutar?
 

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yo. and remember to change yourself - you have to WANT to change yourself. Search fro hypno-think. thats a pocess where you can change yourself to be more confindence by thinkong bout it.
good luck man
 

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Yo viper some random thoughts from various sources. Well first off Holland says he was starting to wonder if it was even worth helping you and I say hell yes. OK well this might help my dad always says everybody ****s the same way, aka we're all human so by caring so much your saying they have more value than you. Also if you care so much that means ur afraid of criticism so Dale Carnegie says two things about this that a. Noone kicks a dead dog meaning people only criticize and put down ppl that they see have alot of potential and are on a path b. just do your best and be impervious to the criticism that rains down. You know bro I'm not the furthest along but I;m committed. Use all your frustration and anger to take massive action to change your life and ya about kids who wanta beat u up I agree that its all in the eyes these dudes usually stare u down don't look away stare them back down and they;ll know u'll be a pain in the ass to mess with that's what i did. Hope this helps
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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