"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm trying to hard to not care, I really am.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I think it's good advice. When I say "be yourself", I mean to just "let things flow". Don't just stand there thinking of things to say just so you can look cool. I also said to work on self-improvement in your spare time so YOURSELF would actually be something girls want.Originally posted by whyshy
About one of the worst advice you can give.
http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm
Whoever wrote that article is just a person like me and you so they have their own opinion. It doesn't mean they're right just because they have it posted on some website. That means that I'm not necessarilly right too...but it's your decision. I know it's advice that helped me...
He says get the Lord of the Rings with the big battle, but IMO, they all have some pretty big battles. I like the third one best, it has some awesome scenes, and the music drives me insane.Originally posted by Royal Elite
The toughest guy you knows was once a little boy who cried and played with toys, but through some form of motivation he changed.
You need to surround yourself with a different envioronment to start thinking different. Like homey said earlier rent movies like fight club, brave heart, the lord of the rings with the big battle,
I really love the music in movies like LOTR, and stuff. They are really moving.
Of course, I used to listen to emo music, in my old days, with AFC lyrics, even though the artists got chicks, but I worshiped the stuff.
Now I still listen to emo, and depressing, because I really like it, and am still somewhat emo, but I also listen to inspirational rap, and anything that can get me pumped. Hell, listen to hair metal from the 80's. I really love Motely Crue, and I also like Pink Floyd, though they aren't exactly hair metal.
Juat listen to any music, and really get into it. Besides just knowing how to play Sax, why don't you learn drums, or gutar?
Yo viper some random thoughts from various sources. Well first off Holland says he was starting to wonder if it was even worth helping you and I say hell yes. OK well this might help my dad always says everybody ****s the same way, aka we're all human so by caring so much your saying they have more value than you. Also if you care so much that means ur afraid of criticism so Dale Carnegie says two things about this that a. Noone kicks a dead dog meaning people only criticize and put down ppl that they see have alot of potential and are on a path b. just do your best and be impervious to the criticism that rains down. You know bro I'm not the furthest along but I;m committed. Use all your frustration and anger to take massive action to change your life and ya about kids who wanta beat u up I agree that its all in the eyes these dudes usually stare u down don't look away stare them back down and they;ll know u'll be a pain in the ass to mess with that's what i did. Hope this helps
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.