I'm trying to lose my damn virginity. I have two options. There's a girl in my computer class I've met and known for about a month. I've been ramping up the flirting for a couple of weeks now, but I don't think she likes me just yet (or maybe she will never). She's gone home for the weekend with our mutual friends, and I can't decide if I should text her asking how the trip is going or something cf. Just show a bit of interest. Something that shows I'm thinking of her. Or I can't decide if that's desperate and I need to back off. I'm also going to the club and need to work on my cold approaches. First time at a club.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm trying to get laid
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
You are just starting off. Don't be afraid to lose her. Don't be afraid to fail. Having that mindset alone will be a great start. Try it. Approach tons of girls, and let her see the new you when she comes back.Nobody said:I'm trying to lose my damn virginity. I have two options. There's a girl in my computer class I've met and known for about a month. I've been ramping up the flirting for a couple of weeks now, but I don't think she likes me just yet (or maybe she will never). She's gone home for the weekend with our mutual friends, and I can't decide if I should text her asking how the trip is going or something cf. Just show a bit of interest. Something that shows I'm thinking of her. Or I can't decide if that's desperate and I need to back off. I'm also going to the club and need to work on my cold approaches. First time at a club.
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
Stop thinkin about it so much. Do your own thing. Do what feels right.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
thechallenger
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trust me the first time you lay is gunna be quick
but right after yall er done your gunna be like
"sh1t the simpsons are on!"
it doesnt awaken you or anything
it just makes you want it more
but right after yall er done your gunna be like
"sh1t the simpsons are on!"
it doesnt awaken you or anything
it just makes you want it more
That's the worst attitude to take. Sorry to be blunt man but if one girl turns you down it's not the end of the world. Just don't let it bother you and chill with your friends, learn from the mistake and try again.Nobody said:My game sucks. I was scared and walked up to some girl. She denied me and it ruined my night. I can't go to the club unless I'm drunk.
Don't get drunk because of it either, that's when you start making dumb mistakes that make you feel even worse about yourself. If you get drunk do it to have fun.
When you go out looking to "get laid" you'll never find anything, especially when you lack confidence. But when you go out to have a good time with friends it's different and you project a more natural, more fun and more confident image, which is what attracts people to you.
Focus on feeling good about yourself, not just trying to appear confident. Girls have good BS detectors and they'll be able to tell if you're not being yourself.
Sure, text her to see how she's doing.Nobody said:I'm trying to lose my damn virginity. I have two options. There's a girl in my computer class I've met and known for about a month. I've been ramping up the flirting for a couple of weeks now, but I don't think she likes me just yet (or maybe she will never). She's gone home for the weekend with our mutual friends, and I can't decide if I should text her asking how the trip is going or something cf. Just show a bit of interest. Something that shows I'm thinking of her. Or I can't decide if that's desperate and I need to back off.
In order to sleep with her, you have to be sincere, but she also has to know you want to sleep with her. If you are too sincere, she'll view you as a nice guy. If you just want to sleep with her, see'll you as a jerk. The part where people get confused is they do one or the other to the extreme, and neither philosophy works well by itself.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Ok, I can tell right there your whole frame of mind is wrong.Nobody said:I'm trying to lose my damn virginity. I have two options.
Read this thread I made yesterday:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=151592
Also, +1 to that!In order to sleep with her, you have to be sincere, but she also has to know you want to sleep with her. If you are too sincere, she'll view you as a nice guy. If you just want to sleep with her, see'll you as a jerk. The part where people get confused is they do one or the other to the extreme, and neither philosophy works well by itself.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
The more depserate and obsessed you are to 'lose it' the more chance you are going to be paranoid, anxious, and creepy and turn off women....
Think twice about what you're wishing for.
If you're not mentally/emotionally ready nor living at least a decent somewhat fulfilling life, you will have a much harder chance attracting genuinely a good woman who will be attracted to you sexually.
Women are attracted sexually to men with character, dominance, confidence, self assuredness,ans a sense of purpose and a Mission, they have tremnedous emotional strength. withstand Social Pressure Well under duress, and dont put women on pedestals. They are also not obessesed with getting laid.
They are so cool, and so socially in tune and well adjusted, that women INSTINCTIVELY KNOW "This guy can fvck me twelve ways from Sunday."
Tell me if you're that kind of guy, dude.
Do you want to be the BEST Man you can BE?
Or are you going to go running around with your d ick in your hand begging for chicks to have pity on you or something?
Women arent attracted to OCD type of guys or insecurity.
Think about this...
Chasing around some woman who happens to be nearby and convenient and fantasize that maybe just maybe she will think you're incredibly attractive and jump your bones is not a good place to be operating from.
This short term instant gratification is the bane of most of the young guys' existence here unfortunately...
I hope I am misreading your situation, but I think Im not.
Think twice about what you're wishing for.
If you're not mentally/emotionally ready nor living at least a decent somewhat fulfilling life, you will have a much harder chance attracting genuinely a good woman who will be attracted to you sexually.
Women are attracted sexually to men with character, dominance, confidence, self assuredness,ans a sense of purpose and a Mission, they have tremnedous emotional strength. withstand Social Pressure Well under duress, and dont put women on pedestals. They are also not obessesed with getting laid.
They are so cool, and so socially in tune and well adjusted, that women INSTINCTIVELY KNOW "This guy can fvck me twelve ways from Sunday."
Tell me if you're that kind of guy, dude.
Do you want to be the BEST Man you can BE?
Or are you going to go running around with your d ick in your hand begging for chicks to have pity on you or something?
Women arent attracted to OCD type of guys or insecurity.
Think about this...
Chasing around some woman who happens to be nearby and convenient and fantasize that maybe just maybe she will think you're incredibly attractive and jump your bones is not a good place to be operating from.
This short term instant gratification is the bane of most of the young guys' existence here unfortunately...
I hope I am misreading your situation, but I think Im not.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
L.A. Tripp
Don Juan
Nobody, your inner game sucks. Sorry, but that's first obvious observation. You can be a virgin and still come across as the type of guy a woman would fawn all over to ****. You do NOT want to be drinking or getting drunk, anyway, when at the club. You will NOT find the kind of girl you want that way. Your game, what little you have, will be shot to hell. You will only end up with the girl that any guy in there gets, and you don't want that one.
Listen to these other posters on this thread. They've put forth some GREAT advice for you.
Listen to these other posters on this thread. They've put forth some GREAT advice for you.