"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm too dark.

Flabbergasped?

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Before I start, I'd like you to know that I'm writing this while pretty drunk. Not sure how good my typing will be, w/e i'll probably spellcheck this.

So anyway, I'm black. I'm not about to complain about my race (I went out and got some numbers, so obviously stuff is working), but there's been an issue that concerns me.

I'm black, but I've become extremely dark. I don't know if its from being out in the sun a lot, but my face especially is like charcoal. It's so bad that, if I'm outside at night, people can't see my face (except for my eyes and smile, apparently) until I'm right next to them. I often get confused for other random ass black dudes, and according to these random black dudes, all these girls think they're me (good sign I think). Anyway, my self-esteem isn't really hurt by how dark I am, but it's starting to affect how well I function in a night time environment.

I'm not about to go through Michael Jackson surgery, so if there's anyway to alleviate this prob, I'll be really grateful.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What is too dark? Is it your own insecurities that defines darkness? Has someone else brought this up? You can still be dark and handsome!
 

i am me

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haha man im dark too (not charcoal like u said but im dark for a filipino). i get **** about it from my friends but theyre jus playin around...really just look at ur natural skin color (what you would look like without the sun) and try to stay that color as much as u can. that means wearing sunscreen and stayin in the shade sometimes but thats not TOO hard. other than that, just chill man, its not a big deal
 

BxPrince24

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Hey, if you don't wanna resort to skin bleaching then just be happy with what you got. things could be a hell of a lot worse. I don't really see it as a downside, it's all in preference. I do understand what you mean though, i have a friend, people call her purple midnight lol... but they're still cool with her, and some of my dudes who called her dark as sh*t has gone out with her. Take what people say as a grain of salt. If your gettin numbers, obviously something right is being done. don't sweat it.
 

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Being dark(and ugly as hell btw) didn't stop Seal from landing a supermodels(Tyra Banks and currently married to Heidi Klum). Of course being a celebrity sure helps, but you get my point. If you're developed in other ways, it won't hold you back.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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just try googling some chick home remedies first
they have all sorts of bleaching creams and sh!t you can use
 
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