"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm too alpha for my own good

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Malice said:
Do true alphas really go around proclaiming they are alphas? I have never seen it.
You know you're not alpha when you post a thread called "I'm too alpha for my own good" on the Internet. Men who are actually alpha don't need to brag about it...just like Bill Gates does not need to brag about being rich. OP should take Jitterbug's advice and stay on the meds.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think it speaks volumes that the guys here taking up for backbreaker are Bible_Belt and bradd80.
 

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I was looking up omega male in some threads and this quote by Colossus hits the nail on the head.

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You see how retarded this is?? I understand alpha/beta in the context of Game and it's use as a teaching tool, but don't be defining yourself by this terminology. We arent fvcking dogs. IMO, anyone who needs to puff his chest with "alpha" proclamations has patent insecurity issues. Leave that sh!t to frat boys and PUAs.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1601598&postcount=20
 

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I'm so beta, I unloaded the dishwasher and made the bed today. What was I thinking? I am going to have to lay a beatdown on her to make up for this.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I am omegamma.

That's the altitude of my alphaness.
 

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I think Backbreaker disproved the bad ratings towards his company months ago. The accusations didn't hold up. I think he's legit.

That being said, I don't think this topic of his brings anything constructive. It seems rather self serving. What can we learn from it? How does it help people here? How can people participate without the OP letting people be involved? I mean you might as well just make your own livejournal or something.

From what I gather from most of your topics, Backbreaker, you have a superiority complex. You have no close friends to confide in, in person; it's a reason why you boast on this site. The friends you do have you feel like you're better than them, like no one can do what you can do, or no one you know deserves what you have.

I understand you.

You've shoveled **** most of your life, let yourself become obese, drugged out, had your heart broken and pulverized by a woman who seemed to not give a sh!t, despite what you did for her. It could make you feel worthless, angry, to the point you overwork yourself to feel like you have value. What are you trying to prove? To who? A lot of guys here have stories like this. A lot of guys who don't post here have been what you've been through. We all understand what you've been through.

"look at this...look at what they make you give"

Backy, I think it's time you really tell us how you feel. It's not healthy to have an 80 hour plus work week, or not being able to depend on people. It's especially not healthy to brag about unhealthy things to mask something troubling. Despite the negative feedback on this thread, most of us would be more than happy to give you support through this.


Just be honest with us, man.
 

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ThunderMaverick said:
I think Backbreaker disproved the bad ratings towards his company months ago. The accusations didn't hold up. I think he's legit.

How was it disproved? By showing some positive reviews he was emailed? They could have been easily forged. Why are there no good reviews online?

Not that I give a ****.
 

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ThunderMaverick said:
I think Backbreaker disproved the bad ratings towards his company months ago. The accusations didn't hold up. I think he's legit.

That being said, I don't think this topic of his brings anything constructive. It seems rather self serving. What can we learn from it? How does it help people here? How can people participate without the OP letting people be involved? I mean you might as well just make your own livejournal or something.

From what I gather from most of your topics, Backbreaker, you have a superiority complex. You have no close friends to confide in, in person; it's a reason why you boast on this site. The friends you do have you feel like you're better than them, like no one can do what you can do, or no one you know deserves what you have.

I understand you.

You've shoveled **** most of your life, let yourself become obese, drugged out, had your heart broken and pulverized by a woman who seemed to not give a sh!t, despite what you did for her. It could make you feel worthless, angry, to the point you overwork yourself to feel like you have value. What are you trying to prove? To who? A lot of guys here have stories like this. A lot of guys who don't post here have been what you've been through. We all understand what you've been through.

"look at this...look at what they make you give"

Backy, I think it's time you really tell us how you feel. It's not healthy to have an 80 hour plus work week, or not being able to depend on people. It's especially not healthy to brag about unhealthy things to mask something troubling. Despite the negative feedback on this thread, most of us would be more than happy to give you support through this.


Just be honest with us, man.
great post and repped.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ThunderMaverick said:
From what I gather from most of your topics, Backbreaker, you have a superiority complex. You have no close friends to confide in, in person; it's a reason why you boast on this site. The friends you do have you feel like you're better than them, like no one can do what you can do, or no one you know deserves what you have.
It's called being insecure. People who are actually successful never brag about their success. They don't need to. The braggarts are always the ones who are desperate to convince others (an often themselves) that they are something they actually aren't. In other words, smoke and mirrors.
 

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Bokanovsky said:
It's called being insecure. People who are actually successful never brag about their success. They don't need to. The braggarts are always the ones who are desperate to convince others (an often themselves) that they are something they actually aren't. In other words, smoke and mirrors.
Exactly, which is why I don't think he should be afraid of being honest with us here. He has nothing to lose and much more to gain.
 

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ThunderMaverick said:
"look at this...look at what they make you give"

Backy, I think it's time you really tell us how you feel. It's not healthy to have an 80 hour plus work week, or not being able to depend on people. It's especially not healthy to brag about unhealthy things to mask something troubling. Despite the negative feedback on this thread, most of us would be more than happy to give you support through this.


Just be honest with us, man.
GREAT ADVICE.

also, nice jason bourne quote
 

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Exactly, which is why I don't think he should be afraid of being honest with us here. He has nothing to lose and much more to gain.
Because he is not here to get help. Backbreaker is an attention wh*re trying to get an ego boost by patting himself on the back and assembling a fan club of naive admirers. He is the SS equivalent of the guy at the bar telling incredible stories about his exploits as a Navy Seal in Afghanistan to a bunch of wide-eyed truckers and rednecks. Fortunately, most SS members now realize that backbreaker is fraud. If you look at some of his older posts, you will see that quite a few posters were eating his sh*t up for quite some time.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NEVER delegate duty. Thats one of the defineing points of being a man. I had some guys i was on staff with not to mention our B/N commander delegated all his duty because he was to much of a little girl to chew ass and give orders. So he was beta and delegated his tasks.
 

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fuko2007 said:
NEVER delegate duty. Thats one of the defineing points of being a man. I had some guys i was on staff with not to mention our B/N commander delegated all his duty because he was to much of a little girl to chew ass and give orders. So he was beta and delegated his tasks.
My man, there's a difference between delegating tasks and neglecting one's personal responsibility as a leader.

A true leader of worth knows how to pick the appropriate subordinates to delegate certain tasks. He takes the credit for a job well done but also shoulders the blame if things go wrong.

Delegation of tasks should not be confused with avoiding responsibility which is what that commander sounds like -- he's clearly unqualified to be any kind of leader.
 
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