"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm tired

SamePendo

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I've seen similar posts on this, similar. My situation is the following:

I hit on every moving hot woman. At the gym, street, store, wherever and whenever. My method is pretty simple, say hi, make some talk about whatever there is to talk about, and eject (number close or insta-date, or whatever). Sometimes I don't, and next time I see her I close.

Take into account that I'm in my early 20s. On a muscle-building diet. It's a miracle I'm not ****ing a doorknob.

My recent problem is the following: I'm tired. One hb after another, some don't cut it for me and I simply stop contacting them, some instantly, some with time, others simply reject me from the getgo or later on :)crazy:), others go away, etcetera etcetera. Now, I feel like if every chick clings their hook to me, and even if that hook is small, when they fly away, they scratch my (heart-soul, whatever). I can deal with that, I'm acting like a sobbing litte girl. What really is getting me right now, is, that, as the title suggests. I'm tired. One after another hb, one after another.

I woke up with this problem, and got the following options by myself:

a) To take a break from hbs.
b) To choose one of them to be stable with.
c) To keep on.

A friend of mine told me some average fairy tale bs about soulmates. But then I called a natural to talk about my problem. He said basically the following:

To take it as a school, learning experiences. To not take things too seriously, I'm taking them too seriously, and that's why I'm getting tired. If I get lighter, I will be able to keep spinning plates and not get tired. There's no reason to get tired.

Well, it made total sense. Any comments? Have you ever felt this way? Does the solution make sense to you? To me, it made absolute sense. I'll be seeing two bytches today :up:.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It makes sense to me.
Yes I have felt this way.
You seem like you are getting bored with the sarging to me. I say you should take option a.) but thats just my opinion. Besides I think the best chicks come along when you arent expecting it, take a break, and do stuff for you and have fun, and either a good one will show you interest or you will see her and decide to move on it.

Personally I think a break is best but its your decision.

Good Luck and tell me what happens
 

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That's the thing, I don't feel bored. If I stop, I'll just go crazy, I know this because I've tried before. I go crazy, because I see wasted opportunities flying infront of me, because hbs are everywhere, each hb has its own charm, etc. Dunno, maybe a week or two break only, don't know. I'll think about it in the thinking place aka the bathroom.

*charm = how her face, titties, ass makes a unique combination ;).
 

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Focus on yourself but still talk to the HBs. No need to focus on determining if they are "the one" or not; maybe she is, maybe not. Don't expel so much effort into wondering if she is or not and focus on your own grove that's going on at that moment. :up:
 

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I feel that way right now.

I swear, Thursday night I met up with this girl from MySpace...she has to be about the hottest girl I've ever linked up with. We were at her friend's place until like 5AM watching a movie...kissing, a little feeling up, but nothing really serious. I figured **** it, I'll get the digits and we'll get it on the next night, when we can get 1 on 1.

Saturday morning...I wake up and she's kicked me off her MySpace profile. No explanation, just GONE.

My regular f-buddy has been making herself scarce the last week or so, too...I think she's getting the vibe that I'm seeing other women and has found someone to replace me. Again, no explanation, just BS.

I'll freely admit that my strength and confidence are not all that well developed yet. I went out last night but I just felt completely out of it...couldn't really talk to anyone and just felt out-of-sorts. And now all the plates I was spinning or trying to spin are falling off one by one.

I honestly think that since my self-confidence is still weak, I kind of wiped myself out this week and am trying to recouperate, which is why I'm tkaing this **** so seriously right now.

I really should be able to shrug off all these girls who are ditching me and thinking, "Yeah, her loss". But honestly, I find myself wondering if there's something I'm screwing up. Right now I feel like I can GET these girls, but I'm like a second- or third-string d!ck for them. I don't know why, with all I've got to offer, that they consistently try to jerk me around. But I'm getting tired of it.

The hardest part to deal with is the insincerity. I mean, if a girl isn't into me, or finds someone else, FINE...but when they don't say sh!t it makes you wonder if I screwed up somewhere...if there's something not quite right with my game yet. I'd rather a girl call me a fvcking loser and blow me off than just stop communicating...because then it's like, am I supposed to initiate, being the "man", or should I just let it ride and see if she calls? Or what?

If all these b!tches are indeed crazy and not worth my time, then it seems like I'm wading through a constant cesspool of ****ty women looking for diamonds in the rough. I don't feel like going out to bars and clubs any more. All the women just look the same to me, even the hot ones. I already know I can get laid. I don't need to prove that. I want to meet some interesting women who will hang around and be straight with me for once.

I feel what you mean...it seems like every one takes a little bit out of me, and when several of them are in transition at once, I just feel like I'm hanging out in the middle of nowhere, like assuming I'm not fvcking up somehow, NONE of these girls know what it takes to please a man or know how much a man can do for them.


I guess there's only one REAL solution. And that's option C, peppered with a little bit of A. Just gotta man-up and dig a little bit deeper. Might want to take a day or two when you just DON'T deal with women...so you can get your strength back.

Game is kind of like a muscle...when you flex it and work it out, it tears down. Once it's torn down, you're weak and if you keep pounding on that muscle, you'll wreck yourself and never get anywhere. But if you give it some rest, it grows back with even more strength and endurance and you can work it longer and harder and take on more load.

You've obviously got a pretty strong game going on right now if you're confident enough to approach women in the street and such. I'm not at that point yet. I've been letting my self-confidence atrophy for a while now and I feel like I just had my first workout recently...I'm feeling very weak and just these few recent misses and drops have me worn out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Focus on yourself but still talk to the HBs. No need to focus on determining if they are "the one" or not; maybe she is, maybe not. Don't expel so much effort into wondering if she is or not and focus on your own grove that's going on at that moment. :up:
I guess that's whats getting me so tired. I'm taking a break today. Get my mind off things, and get some new goals, etc. Focus.
 
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