MrDoomMaster
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--There are 2 parts to this post because it is so long. Part 2 can be found in the proceeding post--
Talking about being a man, here is a summary of how I interpret this concept:
Do not make women your ultimate desire or goal in life; make it one of the least important concerns in your life. Your happiness will be driven by non-rejecting goals in life. Women will only be a side of entertainment that makes your already-entertaining goal all the more entertaining to achieve. Happiness is driven from the Playstation 2 console, not from the accessories that go with it. It is ok to love, but not to show it. Keep all emotions on the inside, never express them or let them effect you physically. Always be happy and show confidence- depressing physical appearances give women uncertainties of how independently qualified you are.
Am I right? Reading through your forums, I have gained much knowledge and understanding on the levels of attracting women and giving them the ideal ‘man.’ Yet, I feel many things contradict with these words of wisdom. To start, I’ll present a scenario I am having in high school right now with a girl I admire greatly:
I am a senior in high school right now, and she is a junior. My name is Robert, her name is Barbie. I have admired her ever since I was a sophomore and I like her still to this day. She seemed so perfect in everyway except for a few things. She had some bad habits I didn’t approve of and they disturbed me because my heart told me to go for her, but my mind told me no because she smoked and drank a lot. Through her entire life at my school she never really had any approval from any of the other students. No one liked her and they teased her with false rumors. To make this simple, I guess you could call her a ‘reject’ because no one liked her.
Through time, I had a few classes with her, and it drove me crazy to see her and not be able to have her. I figured the best repellant of love is hate, and considering I didn’t want a girl that was involved with drinking and smoking, I started to force myself to hate her and be mean to her in order to prevent myself from getting in too deep. This went on for a very long time, and towards the end of January of 2003 I decided the whole thing was stupid and that I liked her far too much to hate her and decided to get to know her. I soon found out she stopped smoking but still drank and got drunk on special occasions (so she tells me). I realize we haven’t been talking for over a month yet, but I decided I should get some help before I screw everything up. Yes, I am one of those ‘nice guys’ and it has given me nothing but rejection through my entire life. I had the false impression that women enjoyed men that devoted their time to them and waited on them hand and foot.
I have been suspicious of a few things that may indicate she has an interest in me, but considering I am a ‘nice guy’ I better run them through this document so that I can gain some opinions on them. First of all, I’ve done well about the obsessive part because I haven’t been calling her much at all (only 2 times as a matter of fact). I only get to see her on weekdays, during school. School time is 7 hours long, with 7 class periods each ranging 50 minutes long. During 4th period I have a class with her and she sits in the desk in front of me and we chit chat all period every day I see her in there. Keep in mind, she makes it quite obvious that she wants me to sit next to her because when other students complain about where I am sitting she always recommends me sitting in a desk next to her. There is also lunch time, which is right after 4th period and lasts usually around 30 minutes. During 4th I ask her if she wants me to sit by her at lunch with her friends and she always says “if you want to”, then I ask “No, I want to know what you want… do you want me to sit next to you?” and with that she replies “yes.” I do this in order to see if she’s really interested in me- to see if she wants me around her. Also, I brought up the fact that I didn’t like her friends because the last time I sat with her at lunch her friends were really rude and got me angry. I told her that I didn’t want to sit over there anymore because of them. She then replied by saying that it would hurt her feelings if I didn’t, so like any nice guy would do- I sucked it up and continued to sit with her at lunch and ignoring her pathetic friends. The only other way Barbie and I could communicate was through AOL messenger, which wasn’t very efficient because she was RARELY online. During 4th period I would say something like “I didn’t see you on last night, where were you?” and she would be honest about it and say she was busy or had to go baby-sit or something. One of the times I asked her why she wasn’t on she offered me her phone number and said that I would have a better chance of getting a hold of her on the phone. I accepted the phone number and called her that night after getting home from school.
I am pretty sure that at lunch, when I’m not sitting next to her, she is watching me. She sits quite a distance behind me so I am really unable to make ‘eye contact’ with her (to give her that ‘yeah I like you’ feeling) without turning completely around and making it absolutely obvious. I know this because Barbie is always able to give specific details about what I am doing at lunch. For example, before I started being nice to Barbie there was a girl I’d always talk to because I liked her. Barbie would always be able to give VERY specific details on how I’d act around the girl that sat by me at lunch and Barbie also said that I made it obvious that I liked that girl. I figured this was a ‘girly’ thing of Barbie to do considering that talking to other girls makes you seem less obsessive and like I once read, ‘women want what they can’t have’.
Also, in 4th period, when I do something little like run my fingers through her hair for like one split second just to enjoy the feeling of touching some part of her body, she doesn’t resist in any way at all. It seems that every attempt I make to flirt with her, she makes no attempt to resist. Another note- when people in her other classes ask her if she likes me she simply replies with a “we’re just friends”. I figured this is alright because you can’t just expect to hit it off with a girl immediately after starting to talk to her. You have to take time to develop an interest in her.
She does know I like her because I have expressed this to her in semi-sneaky ways. For example, I will tell her about a conversation me and a friend would have had: “yeah me and my friend were talking and he asked me if I liked you and I said yeah I do like her, and then he told me I was really nasty for liking you… I thought he was really stupid though, he really hasn’t taken the time to get to know you”
I have asked her out on a date, but in a very polite manor. I asked her that if she were to have any free time would she like to go out and watch a movie and eat some pizza. She said yes, and that would be great if she ever has free time. She is honestly a pretty busy girl, and it seems completely incorrect that I have absolutely nothing but free time in my life and she is always so preoccupied with traveling or visiting friends or baby-sitting.
--Part 2 can be found in the proceeding thread--
Talking about being a man, here is a summary of how I interpret this concept:
Do not make women your ultimate desire or goal in life; make it one of the least important concerns in your life. Your happiness will be driven by non-rejecting goals in life. Women will only be a side of entertainment that makes your already-entertaining goal all the more entertaining to achieve. Happiness is driven from the Playstation 2 console, not from the accessories that go with it. It is ok to love, but not to show it. Keep all emotions on the inside, never express them or let them effect you physically. Always be happy and show confidence- depressing physical appearances give women uncertainties of how independently qualified you are.
Am I right? Reading through your forums, I have gained much knowledge and understanding on the levels of attracting women and giving them the ideal ‘man.’ Yet, I feel many things contradict with these words of wisdom. To start, I’ll present a scenario I am having in high school right now with a girl I admire greatly:
I am a senior in high school right now, and she is a junior. My name is Robert, her name is Barbie. I have admired her ever since I was a sophomore and I like her still to this day. She seemed so perfect in everyway except for a few things. She had some bad habits I didn’t approve of and they disturbed me because my heart told me to go for her, but my mind told me no because she smoked and drank a lot. Through her entire life at my school she never really had any approval from any of the other students. No one liked her and they teased her with false rumors. To make this simple, I guess you could call her a ‘reject’ because no one liked her.
Through time, I had a few classes with her, and it drove me crazy to see her and not be able to have her. I figured the best repellant of love is hate, and considering I didn’t want a girl that was involved with drinking and smoking, I started to force myself to hate her and be mean to her in order to prevent myself from getting in too deep. This went on for a very long time, and towards the end of January of 2003 I decided the whole thing was stupid and that I liked her far too much to hate her and decided to get to know her. I soon found out she stopped smoking but still drank and got drunk on special occasions (so she tells me). I realize we haven’t been talking for over a month yet, but I decided I should get some help before I screw everything up. Yes, I am one of those ‘nice guys’ and it has given me nothing but rejection through my entire life. I had the false impression that women enjoyed men that devoted their time to them and waited on them hand and foot.
I have been suspicious of a few things that may indicate she has an interest in me, but considering I am a ‘nice guy’ I better run them through this document so that I can gain some opinions on them. First of all, I’ve done well about the obsessive part because I haven’t been calling her much at all (only 2 times as a matter of fact). I only get to see her on weekdays, during school. School time is 7 hours long, with 7 class periods each ranging 50 minutes long. During 4th period I have a class with her and she sits in the desk in front of me and we chit chat all period every day I see her in there. Keep in mind, she makes it quite obvious that she wants me to sit next to her because when other students complain about where I am sitting she always recommends me sitting in a desk next to her. There is also lunch time, which is right after 4th period and lasts usually around 30 minutes. During 4th I ask her if she wants me to sit by her at lunch with her friends and she always says “if you want to”, then I ask “No, I want to know what you want… do you want me to sit next to you?” and with that she replies “yes.” I do this in order to see if she’s really interested in me- to see if she wants me around her. Also, I brought up the fact that I didn’t like her friends because the last time I sat with her at lunch her friends were really rude and got me angry. I told her that I didn’t want to sit over there anymore because of them. She then replied by saying that it would hurt her feelings if I didn’t, so like any nice guy would do- I sucked it up and continued to sit with her at lunch and ignoring her pathetic friends. The only other way Barbie and I could communicate was through AOL messenger, which wasn’t very efficient because she was RARELY online. During 4th period I would say something like “I didn’t see you on last night, where were you?” and she would be honest about it and say she was busy or had to go baby-sit or something. One of the times I asked her why she wasn’t on she offered me her phone number and said that I would have a better chance of getting a hold of her on the phone. I accepted the phone number and called her that night after getting home from school.
I am pretty sure that at lunch, when I’m not sitting next to her, she is watching me. She sits quite a distance behind me so I am really unable to make ‘eye contact’ with her (to give her that ‘yeah I like you’ feeling) without turning completely around and making it absolutely obvious. I know this because Barbie is always able to give specific details about what I am doing at lunch. For example, before I started being nice to Barbie there was a girl I’d always talk to because I liked her. Barbie would always be able to give VERY specific details on how I’d act around the girl that sat by me at lunch and Barbie also said that I made it obvious that I liked that girl. I figured this was a ‘girly’ thing of Barbie to do considering that talking to other girls makes you seem less obsessive and like I once read, ‘women want what they can’t have’.
Also, in 4th period, when I do something little like run my fingers through her hair for like one split second just to enjoy the feeling of touching some part of her body, she doesn’t resist in any way at all. It seems that every attempt I make to flirt with her, she makes no attempt to resist. Another note- when people in her other classes ask her if she likes me she simply replies with a “we’re just friends”. I figured this is alright because you can’t just expect to hit it off with a girl immediately after starting to talk to her. You have to take time to develop an interest in her.
She does know I like her because I have expressed this to her in semi-sneaky ways. For example, I will tell her about a conversation me and a friend would have had: “yeah me and my friend were talking and he asked me if I liked you and I said yeah I do like her, and then he told me I was really nasty for liking you… I thought he was really stupid though, he really hasn’t taken the time to get to know you”
I have asked her out on a date, but in a very polite manor. I asked her that if she were to have any free time would she like to go out and watch a movie and eat some pizza. She said yes, and that would be great if she ever has free time. She is honestly a pretty busy girl, and it seems completely incorrect that I have absolutely nothing but free time in my life and she is always so preoccupied with traveling or visiting friends or baby-sitting.
--Part 2 can be found in the proceeding thread--