I'm tired of not getting replies back from girls I like

[Deicide]

ok, I'm tired of not getting replies back from a girl I like who is a MySpace friend, granted I asked her out in high school and got turned down but this is 2 years later and I have no one else in my life or no seeming to be there so why the hell not. I've always heard things like "You'll find someone else", well I still haven't despite going to a university so I don't know what's up, oh, and here's the comment I sent this morning.
"Hey Jenny! I haven't talked to you in a while, what've you been up to, is school going ok for you? It's going ok for me if you don't count me having 4 tests last week. lol I hope to see you around sometime, maybe on Spring Break or some random meeting. lol I hope you're doing well. I'll talk to you later.
Was there anything wrong with this comment? Any advice?

 

[raiz]

"Hey Jenny! I haven't talked to you in a while, what've you been up to, is school going ok for you? It's going ok for me if you don't count me having 4 tests last week. lol I hope to see you around sometime, maybe on Spring Break or some random meeting. lol I hope you're doing well. I'll talk to you later."

Wow, so much to dissect here.

1. Stop with the "lol". It comes off as you laughing at your own comments, which is insecure.

2. Why start off the message with a question about her? What if, instead, you started off with something awesome that you've been up to. You want her interested in you? You need to show what an awesome interesting person you are!

"Hey Jenny, I just got back from hiking in the mountains/going to Jiu Jitsu class/seeing an awesome band live, and had a great time."

If you don't have anything interesting to say.... get a damn hobby!

3. "I hope to see you around sometime, maybe on Spring Break or some random meeting. lol I hope you're doing well. I'll talk to you later."

This screams to me needy needy needy! Here is my intepretation of the above:

"I really want to go out with you but I'm afraid to directly ask. I don't have any plans for my spring break. Please write me back or I might die an aweful lonely death."

I hope this helps man.

 

[Andromax]

Yeah you seem desperate because you are desperate, and she can tell. You asked her out in high school, and she wasn't interested then, and she isn't interested now.

You know this to be true, correct?

Yet you still leave her messages knowing she won't return them? This is the opposite of being DJ.

It wouldn't matter what you said in your message to an extent if she were interested in you.

The fact that you have no one else in your life is not going to create an attraction in her.


What are you doing to attract females? Forget about this one, its over. You're wasting your time and making yourself look foolish.

Read the book of pook if you haven't. Read double your dating, read the bible. We're all here to help each other but you gotta help yourself more than anything.

 

[DonJuan11]

ok, I'm tired of not getting replies back from a girl I like who is a MySpace friend, granted I asked her out in high school and got turned down but this is 2 years later and I have no one else in my life or no seeming to be there so why the hell not.

Why don't you have anyone one else in your life? Are you that boring that girls can't stand to be with you?

I've always heard things like "You'll find someone else", well I still haven't despite going to a university so I don't know what's up,

You don't know what's up? You haven't met someone else because you are charming, funny, rich and ripped with alot of friends and girls give know they have to give in to their basic instincts to sleep with you, but they are afraid they may fall in love with you if they do so they don't.

oh, and here's the comment I sent this morning.
"Hey Jenny! I haven't talked to you in a while, what've you been up to, is school going ok for you?

This is a girl that has rejected you twice before. Why do think she will suddenly get weak knees and respond?

It's going ok for me if you don't count me having 4 tests last week.

Do not volunteer information. If she has not even asked you anything, why would you tell her anything? She doesn't even care.

lol I hope to see you around sometime, maybe on Spring Break or some random meeting. lol I hope you're doing well. I'll talk to you later.

Dude what kind of confidence does that statement show? You have to make it more forceful than that and put your ego on the line. You are so scared she might tell you where to go if you are forceful that you don't even try. "Maybe I might seen you sometime in the future maybe during Spring Break maybe if you are not too busy in some random place maybe". Sounds like you are begging to get inside her.

Was there anything wrong with this comment?

Yes it shouldn't have been sent.

Dude these girls don't owe you anything because you are you. You have to man up and get some hobbies, be fun, make friends, make money, get some new clothes and learn a new language, then they will come. Yes its work, yes its easier to come home to the internet every night, yes its not fun putting the ego on the line, but you have to do it to get laid.

 

[Deicide]

I do have hobbies because they're not the kind you talk about with girls: Guitar,
Heavy Metal, Dallas Cowboys football, boxing, baseball, basketball, Porn lol. My hobbies don't really fit in with the girls.

 

[ezily]

Well get some hobbies where you will be in contact with girls. But yeah man don't beat yourself up. I once sent a gift, that I ordered from the internet, to a girl from hs when we were in college who probably didn't like me (but I thought she might). Needless to say all I got from her was some facebook message. I was pretty upset. When I look back on it I just shake my head and laugh. I was such a loser. Yeah those good ole AFC days... don't miss them at all.

So yeah, internet =/= girls. If you want to meet girls from the internet use a dating website. But I wouldn't expect the girls to be too hot.

You're going to have to go out and make an effort if you really want to change your life. Read that DJ Bible and learn to be confident and funny. Go to the gym. Things will start to get better when you stop feeling sorry for yourself and when you stop caring (to some extent) about what girls think about you.

So moral of the story is not to ever send facebook messages or myspace messages to girls and expect to hook up with them. It's really lame and you seem desperate and too insecure and scared to talk to them in person. Lessoned learned.