**** I'm tired of girls saying this to me!!!

[thewarrior]

Chicks always say I'm very quiet and I think this is BS. But I must be doing something to warrant this response. Girls would only know me for a couple hours before making this assessment.

What does this mean?

I talk, ask questions, laugh, make jokes, etc. I talk in a low, deep voice. I do not come across as nerdy or unsure. So what the **** are they talking about? And this is ****ing up my game because I think I come across less of a man and someone they wouldn't date.

My brother through his business meets many good looking girls and sometimes I get to be at his house when these girls are over. Recently, my brother had to step out so he asked me to keep this girl company until he gets back. Turns out he was away for about 3 hours. So, we talked for a good while with breaks in conversation every few minutes. I asked if she's hungry because I was and we went to get something to eat. I found out quite a bit about her and gave very little info about myself. But then she said the dreaded words "you seem quiet". I was like "quiet how?". Her response, "oh just quiet".

Long story short, she gave me her cell number and today I text her and said "wanna hang out sometime" and so far no response. I could tell when we met she liked me but something was holding her back from fully liking me. It's hard to explain but with some guys, you can tell girls are really digging him the moment they meet.

How the hell can I become that guy? And how can I fix my "quiet" thing?

I should also say that I have a very hard time talking sexual or kino-ing a girl I just met. But let's say if we hung out again, then I could be the man. Maybe I'm not showing any sexual energy which is why I seem "quiet". But I just met you and I have no idea what kind of person you are so it would be very awkward to be flirty.

But is that what I have to do? The moment I see and start talking to a girl, be a ****ing man and flirt with her? Is that how I can get their attention and stop being called quiet and never getting any *****?

 

[Apocalypse Now]

I found out quite a bit about her and gave very little info about myself. But then she said the dreaded words "you seem quiet". I was like "quiet how?". Her response, "oh just quiet".

You asked her questions and kept the conversation going, but without telling her anything about yourself she's going to start to realize that she's the only one actually talking, meaning not just asking questions but contributing to the topic. Throw in some personal details, some stories, some opinions. Otherwise she's going to go home later, think about the evening, and realize that there's nothing to think about because while you did laugh and ask questions, you were still "quiet." (your end of the conversation should be 70% listening, 30% talking [that doesn't include asking questions])

Also, perhaps you didn't make enough eye contact, or seemed kind of glazed over while talking to her. A direct and focused, yet not incredibly serious, gaze will make them believe you're actively listening.

 

[thewarrior]

Okay I can work on the eye contact thing. And maybe you misunderstood me... I didn't just ask her questions the whole time, and I didn't go on a long monologue about myself. I think my conversation skills is close to 70/30.

I still think that I'm held back by constantly thinking like "is this the right thing to say" or "should I do this". Obviously, my current way ain't doing **** for me so I'm going to start being totally loose and say whatever the **** I wanna say within the law and within the boundaries of getting kicked in the nuts. I think that's what women really like.

 

[Apocalypse Now]

Less is more in this case. The less you care, the more you'll get.

 

[kingy]

mmm do you actually speak quiet, get one of your pua buddies just to confirm if this is the case. i find it wierd to be a **** test cos ive never encountered it, to me it sounds like u actually arent being loud enough and that subcommunicates that u arent confident.