"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm tired of blowing dates. I need help with this next one

CostaDeSol

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I've only gone on two dates before and I blew them both. So i wanted to ask for help so I that I don't blow my third date.

I sat behind this HB7 last semester in a class. We would chit chat but I never asked her out then because I didn't want to make things awkward if i f'd up the date which has happened before. So we are definitely beyond a coffee date. She never showed many ioi's which I took as a red flag. but she did seem impressed with me since we work in similar fields and I am at a much more advanced level than she is.

She is very religious. This makes me think i will have a tiny chance of getting her in the sack very quickly. She is also under 21 so we can't do the whole bar thing.

I thought maybe I could take her out at night to an exotic restaurant and then offer to go back to my place for a movie.


So my question is, if you were me, how would you play this? should I wait until the 2nd or 3rd date to invite her to my place? or should I go in for the kill on date 1?


I know i fell behind when i failed to get with her while we had the same class. but I don't think I'm out of the game. I just need to know how proceed from here.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bankai

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High religiosity does not always mean you can't get with the girl. That really depends on their interest level and if you've raised it high enough.

How old are you? 3 dates in your entire seems rather low.... you seem to be putting all your eggs in one basket (this date)

I would start going to more public places and chatting up random people just to get over your anxieties and insecurities.
 

CostaDeSol

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I'm 25. i've had gf's before but they only happened because the girls were my friends first. I would meet them through my social circle and then i would isolate them after a while.

but what this means for me is that i lack many dating skills.
 
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