"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm through with HS chicks and their bull

SinJester

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Seriously guys, stop blaming high school. Either you adjust or learn to enjoy the company of just guys. Part of being a true DJ is adaptability.

You'se are complaining about sarging not working, but is a girl really going to fall in love with you after talking to you briefly once, anywhere? I don't think so. If she isn't in your friendship circles you just have to have patience and gradually get to know her. You should try to expand your circle too, all you have to know is one person and you have acess to the whole group.

Perhaps you guys should read this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=36659

I’m so tired of my HS because the only time people fvck is at parties or with their girlfriends
It's not just YOUR high school. What do you expect? If chicks aren fcking around with guys who aren't their boyfriend they will get labeled a slut - their worst nightmare. Unless they actually are a slut. Hm seriously, that sounds perfectly normal to me.

I've actually got a mad superiority complex. I don't talk to girls at my school because I feel superior to the scum of my school.
That's your problem. You ARENT any better than any of these people. You just think you are. Everyone is basically equal, so you are just making it easy to alienate people. Looking down at people isn't the way to get them to look up to you.

High School is by far the easiest place to sarge because these chicks are seeing you everyday and so they will chase the shining thing everyday and all there friends will fiend. Eventually every chick will see all the chicks going for you and you will attract even more. You can basically hand pick which chicks you want to fuk.
Easiest or hardest, whatever you make it. It's a double edge sword, so if they see you every day and don't like what they see, it aint gonna help. Most chicks don't put out as easy as older girls who have left high school.

Even when high school finishes some things will change, but some wont. Girls are always going to put status on your social value. However the thing is when HS finishes some of this actually depends on your job etc. Right now it just depends on your 'popularity', which I think some people are misenturpreting.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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First of all i agree with you SJ. i didnt get anywhere a year ago and most of my good friends were a year older. i blamed the unfair popularity system and i used to think a lot of guys were douchebags.

this year is basically the year i realized the "populars" (no one calls them this btw) werent bad, some are the funniest kids i know.

now that we all agree ;), can i get some approach advice?
 

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A couple of the most popular guys I know are also some of the nicest guys I know. These are geniuenly good blokes. Most talk about popular people are sterotypes. Although don't get me wrong, some of them are douchebags.

About aproaching: Just do it. I usually meet people at parties then transition to talking to them normally. Its easy to branch out from your friendship group. Say if you know one person in a group go up to them and work from there. Once you meet everyone you can use them to branch off. Much better than whatever else.

To be honest I'm working on aproaching myself (not including the above method). I need to improve, so take anything I say to you with a grain of salt. Honestly I'm not sure the best way. The thing is as we are all in HS we automatically have a huge amount of coversational material to start with, much more than strangers would normally have outside. I don't believe you need fancy lines, just a little social proof, a confident walk, a big smile and sone sincerity. Some of the coolest guys I know are the ones that talk to everyone, reguadless of their social status.

Hm anyway, you might want to make a new thread about aproaching. Then again, maybe not, I've seen too many. Have a look around.
 

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In a nut shell...

- Just do it, you don't have to be confident to approach, you can be indifferent
- Offer Value
- Be in the moment, don't think about what your going to say and don't think a step ahead. (Read "The Power of NOW" if you have problems being in the NOW)
- Don't eject from a set unless they physically walk away
- Lead the interaction and escalate
- Mainly focus on having a good voice, eye contact, and body language, (No needy/trying for rapport Body langauge)

Basically only way your going to get good is if you approach, approach, approach. You need experience and reference points in order to get better and better.

Social Value isn't really about status. The reason why Social Value is attached to "Status" is because they have a title that makes them play the role of a high value guy. Take them out of the school situation and put them in a random party and there high value will change.

Back when I was in school I built high value because I was really witty with my social skills that I learned from these sites. Everyone seen that I was around so many girls so I had value through the roof. I was able to kino chicks I never even talked to and they didn't mind because the value I had and the frames I had made it ok.

Now out of high school and after learning a sh!tload of new things, I assume value and just screen chicks. This is way better because anywhere at anything your a high value guy and it doesn't matter what your wearing, who your with, what role you play, etc. Your high value just cause and women will react accordingly.

Your best bet is to search back on my older threads of when I was back in high school, because my game now, you won't really learn much because I don't really do much anymore.

Only real advice I can give is just go in and approach like crazy. Test out all sorts of stuff and be willing to fuk things up. Get out of the mindset of trying to actually get laid or get anywhere with chicks, instead look at it as you improving who you are.
 

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Haha heres an interesting thing....

This thing with this chick reminds of the song Perfect Situation by weezer.

theres the pitch
slow and straight
all i have to do is swing
and i'm a hero
but i'm a zero


And im being a wimp about it, need to change that.

It's an awesome song, but weezer are about the most nice guyish band i know, so not very encouraging music.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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