"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm such a loser

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I'm such a loser, I have a paper due by 11:59 pm 7/18 and Im only 1/3 of the way finished. I swear I've written more BS here than for my paper. I've never written a paper without waiting to the last minute. It is like I need the stress of an impending deadline to force myself into sitting down and writing. I played golf today, took my gf to lunch, lifted weights, threw jabs at ppl on here, and just did everything except get my work together.

Any reformed procrastinators???
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm not going to bed until I finish!
 

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Is it submitted online? Take a video/image/zip file, rename it into a word document. Whatever ways there are to corrupt the file and make it unreadable. Now submit it. Than when they question you, say they screwed up. Give them hell, say you put a lot of effort into it. Be sure to have a legit/good copy on hand.

Never tried that before though.
 

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Ya i do that too. I got some drawings for air plaine we are working on due on this wednedsay (7/16) and i had my whole weeked free....still didn't finish them....i'll do it tonight.....

I did that back in highschool too. All the stupid book reports, i'd stay up till 4 in the morning (class at 8) writing it. End up with 12 page book report with almost all contents of the report coppied from the book.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"I love deadlines. I like the whooshing sound they make as they fly by."

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I am a reformed procrastinator.

I'll tell you how i did it.

Firstly my problem was structure. If you don't structure your life you won't really go anywhere. That basically how I did it.
By structuring I mean I thought about what was important, what wasn't improtant, my goals, how to achieve them, what work needed to get them. Then I pretty much worked backwards from that and decided how I felt about completing a project on time, from my previous ideas.

If you need a more though explanation jus ask.
 

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I watched the "secret" before I wrote the paper and I was actually able to enjoy the process of writing it.
 

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i've reformed immensely. i used to be just like that...waiting until the last second to do everything.

if anything, here's what has helped and helps me...i think of the way i would want it to be and things i need to get done to be where i need to be.

realize that if you don't do your paper, that's less time to do the things you do enjoy (or enjoy more), or less enjoyment from those activities because you're too tired or whatever from staying up late procrastinating.

here's what i do usually...

think of what i need to get done to be where or at the level of progress i want to be in terms of my goals. then work backwards. for example, if i wanted to get a lot of stuff done today, i had to get up early. to get up early, i would have to have my sh*t done last night. to get my stuff done last night, i would have to not slack off. then you just figure out how much time you would need for each thing...working backwards has really helped me a ton.

hope it helps you too. i also think getting very passionate about your goals also helps. gl

also, Player_Supreme's podcasts. take action. nothing will get done if you just sit there. it won't happen, you have to do it. his podcasts have helped a lot with my mindset.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well since procrastination is a part of your behavior just simply change your behavior. Tommorrow when you wake up do things that need to be done like laundry, dishes, vaccum your car and simply develop a work ethic. Keep this mentality for a week and at the end (or during) of the week focus on how confident you feel after doing all that work.
 

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chickenlegs03 said:
also, Player_Supreme's podcasts. take action. nothing will get done if you just sit there. it won't happen, you have to do it. his podcasts have helped a lot with my mindset.
I sensed alot of Player_Supreme in your posts.
 

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....I hate writing papers, i'm forcing myself to take english courses for college in the fall...blah..blah..my point is that your not alone. Sounds like you have a good social routine you just need to develop a routine for your home work. practice, practice, practice.
 
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