"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm Stupid

Essa Rios

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On Saturday i had a date with this girl i met at a party. The plan was to hang out at the beach then take her to a nice sea food restaurant by the sea at night. But when i went to pick her up, she came out with one of her girlfriends and said if it was ok if her friend came along as well. WTF!!!!
I thought this was a date so why did she invite someone else without asking me?? I was put on the spot and had no choice but to say yes like a jackass.
Basicly the whole date was fu*ked up as i had no one on one time with the girl i originally asked out. Check this out, after hanging out at the beach we all decided to grab a bite to eat so we went to this fancy burger restaurant.
We each order and eat, i thought we would each pay for our own food as this was no longer a date. WRONG!!!
When the bill came, they just sat there looking pretty and never made an attempt to reach for the check. After 10min, i finally get the check and start to open my wallet hoping they would at least offer to pay for half but NO, they just sat there looking at me. They never even paid for sh*t.
Now i was mad for being played for a fool, what would you guys have done?
After dinner we walked around for a bit and head home. But it gets worse, when we got to my car to drive them home, they both sat in the back seat of my car so i was by myself in the front like a stupid taxi driver.
Worst date ever! So i drive them home and they both just shook my hand and went inside. I wasted a saturday on these girls, plus over 50bucks on food. Yes i am a loser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dante420

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WOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWWW

You got played,

For the next 10 times I command you pre-emptively insist that she's the one taking YOU out to eat. And I don't mean her I mean drop her and find new ones.
 

Igetit!

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FREAKIN' WOW DUDE.

I don't even know what to say to this.


Just PLEASE TELL ME you have no further plans to see her again.

Because if you're still interested in her after that little stunt she pulled,then the title of this thread is correct.
 

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The minute her girlfriend showed up it was no longer a date

therefore, you should've either bounced, or made them pay for their own food
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Dante420

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Ganondorf said:
The minute her girlfriend showed up it was no longer a date

therefore, you should've either bounced, or made them pay for their own food

I'd say end thread but this thread makes me = :box:
 

DJDamage

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She played you for a fool Essa!

You went with her plan and you shouldn't have done that. As a man you have options and if that means putting your foot down and making a scene so be it!

Its better to put your foot down and make others feel uncomfortable then to have some broad step all over you.

Essa Rios said:
I was put on the spot and had no choice but to say yes like a jackass
You had a choice, you should have said no. What you needed to do was clear the air and asked to speak in private with the girl without making a scene. As soon as she would give you her B.S story like how she thought it wasn't a date or feels bad to leave her friend alone then you should have said " fine have fun with your chica, adios" and walk out.

Essa Rios said:
When the bill came, they just sat there looking pretty and never made an attempt to reach for the check. After 10min, i finally get the check and start to open my wallet hoping they would at least offer to pay for half but NO, they just sat there looking at me. They never even paid for sh*t.
Now i was mad for being played for a fool, what would you guys have done?
Lets say if was in your situation, I would have thought ahead and would tell the waiter before he brought me the bill to put all the orders on seperate bills. Thus you pay for your own and let the two dumb broad suck the resturant owner's c0ck for repayment if they were dumb enough not to bring a wallet. You also shouldn't have went with their agenda's and you should have asked for their share because you aren't no sugar daddy.

Essa Rios said:
After dinner we walked around for a bit and head home. But it gets worse, when we got to my car to drive them home, they both sat in the back seat of my car so i was by myself in the front like a stupid taxi driver.
Now you are starting to get it, this wasn't no date so why are you surprised?! again you were under no obligation to drive them home but you did.

Essa Rios said:
Yes i am a loser!!!
You acted stupid but you aren't a loser because you learned a valuable lesson which I am sure you aren't going to repeat.

NEXT!!!
 

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Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame one me. It's a learning lesson brother.
 

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Well we can all agree that what he did was wrong but i am sure most of us would fall for the same trick. It was a suprise and he didnt have a chance to think ahead. Next time he will be ready when something like this happens...

Good thing i will too...

Sick sick story bro..
 

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Option One: "Look, you obviously want to hang out with your girl friend. We'll reschedule later." (Turn and walk away.)

Option Two: "Sure! The more, the merrier!" (Put the new girl up front and start treating HER like the prime girl. Discuss your fantasy of a three way.Tell the waiter at the resturant that you're splitting the check, girls on one, you on the other. Enjoy your evening out and never call the girl from the party EVER again!)

....also! Ask the new girl for HER number in front of the original girl!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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jophil28

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I would have flirted with BOTH of them until we ate the food, then I would have paid for ONE burger and sides, and then just walked out and left them there.

Baitches like that deserve brutal treatment.
 

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WaterTiger said:
Option One: "Look, you obviously want to hang out with your girl friend. We'll reschedule later." (Turn and walk away.)

Option Two: "Sure! The more, the merrier!" (Put the new girl up front and start treating HER like the prime girl. Discuss your fantasy of a three way.Tell the waiter at the resturant that you're splitting the check, girls on one, you on the other. Enjoy your evening out and never call the girl from the party EVER again!)

....also! Ask the new girl for HER number in front of the original girl!
Cool tactics, Water L.
 

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High Stupid, I'm God. What you should have done was ask her if this was a threesome, if not get the fvck out both of you!!! Then see how the chick apologizes OR calls you an arsehole. Who gives a flying fvck? She's wasting your fvcking time. Tell her that.
 

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good ideas water i like that lol. i guess it depends on the guy's preference. He also could have told her from the get go that she had to have money for food to come along. odds are: she had her bytch shield on high( like too far high); she's dumb and young; she's more inexperienced than a 40 year old in his moms basement; or she just straight out unrelentlessly ignorant or stupid.

bottom line you should kick her to the curb maybe try to fling around some with her friend just to help your balls heal
 

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mikeymic said:
; she's dumb and young; she's more inexperienced than a 40 year old in his moms basement
No I live UPSTAIRS. d*** hole. I'm getting the whole place when they die. Be smart dude. I'll retire rich. But I don't work hard.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I dont think you're stupid. You were put on the spot. All these guys can SAY they would have done this or that, but reality is different when its right in front of you. You were caught in a fvcked up situation. If I were you, I would call chick #1, and tell her she owes me a dinner BY HERSELF, to make up for pulling that bullshyt. Forget that walk away quietly shyt, call her out on her crap, and tell her she needs to make it up to you, cuz she's a spoiled little cvnt. Go off on her about it. It'll be good for her, and might make her respect you a little bit (not that it matter anymore).
 

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fertileTurtle said:
High Stupid, I'm God. What you should have done was ask her if this was a threesome, if not get the fvck out both of you!!! Then see how the chick apologizes OR calls you an arsehole. Who gives a flying fvck? She's wasting your fvcking time. Tell her that.
lol that is brilliant. Totally in line with my sense of humor.
 

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The fact that you did not speak up about the bill was just stupid. DO you like getting walked on? You didn't have to, you let them do it.

WaterTiger said it perfectly, I would have done option 1 or option 2...

You are an AFC for doing ANYTHING else. Truth.
 

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Essa Rios said:
On Saturday i had a date with this girl i met at a party. The plan was to hang out at the beach then take her to a nice sea food restaurant by the sea at night. But when i went to pick her up, she came out with one of her girlfriends and said if it was ok if her friend came along as well. WTF!!!!
I thought this was a date so why did she invite someone else without asking me?? I was put on the spot and had no choice but to say yes like a jackass.
Basicly the whole date was fu*ked up as i had no one on one time with the girl i originally asked out. Check this out, after hanging out at the beach we all decided to grab a bite to eat so we went to this fancy burger restaurant.
We each order and eat, i thought we would each pay for our own food as this was no longer a date. WRONG!!!
When the bill came, they just sat there looking pretty and never made an attempt to reach for the check. After 10min, i finally get the check and start to open my wallet hoping they would at least offer to pay for half but NO, they just sat there looking at me. They never even paid for sh*t.
Now i was mad for being played for a fool, what would you guys have done?
After dinner we walked around for a bit and head home. But it gets worse, when we got to my car to drive them home, they both sat in the back seat of my car so i was by myself in the front like a stupid taxi driver.
Worst date ever! So i drive them home and they both just shook my hand and went inside. I wasted a saturday on these girls, plus over 50bucks on food. Yes i am a loser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You could have done the "i need to get some money from an ATM", I'll be right back. And leave them there.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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