"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm Stupid. How do you Hug a girl?

TheLonelyOne

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I'm not joking. I've seriously not thought about it until now. Would it be better to put your arms under hers and around her back as apposed to over her's and around her back? Over her arms would seem very controlling.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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VIVAlasVEGASBaby

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Under the arms, hand resting on her upper back if shes a friend, lower back if a romantic interest
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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haha... man oh man. don't be a loser and hug girls at school like all those freshman kids who think its cool hugging one girl after another.

girls go around hugging other girls. ... i never thought "wow that guy hugs girls... he's so cool."

no, usually i look at their nervous facial expression as they hug a girl and after they pull back after... they look so nervous its pathetic.

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when you're completely into a girl and totally comfortable around her... it doesn't matter HOW you hug a girl. it'll just be totally natural.

and naturally if her arms are going over your shoulders around your neck, you'll NATURALLY go around her waist. if you naturally go over her shoulder, she'll NATURALLY go around your waist. it doesn't make a difference. its subconscious... you won't even think of it.

don't be juvenile and compare kisses to hugs, and how hugs lead to kissing, which leads to touching in the dirty places. meaningful hugs feel just as good as a REAL kiss.

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i didn't give you an answer on how to... but why it's just dumb.

it comes naturally.

also... grab their ass after a few seconds for fun as as a "joke". they love getting touched if you're not an ugly creep.
 

The Shocker

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lol...never really thought about this, I guess I almost always go under the arms and around the waist...huh
 

Local Celebrity

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Wow. Put your arms under her arms, around her waist, and have her put her arms around your neck.

If it's a bad hug, just automatically blame her. Just say something like "Wow, that was horrible! But I'm gonna let you make it up to me, by giving me another one."
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Just do it....if u want it to lead somewhere start ****ing about and get her to grab ur wrist then move ur hand into hers and then put ur other arm on her lower back....sorry but it always works for me...[ive aid before i get nervous with kissing but its only when this cant be initiated]
 

Berlex

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rest your hands on their buttocks, they like that
 
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