Im Still Not Over My F*ckin Gf... Advice!!

[NoCommitments]

I've always been the DJ & the manly man with chicks!!! ALWAYS!!!
but my last breakup is kinda f*ckin me up... Im doin good in the chick dept. I got a bunch of chicks on match. I banged my friends target (whos obsessed with me btw) he was ok with it & Im getting in great shape. From the outside you would say I look 100 times better than ever!!!

BUT

My head is f*cked!!! this last chick got me with major One Itis...Im humble & admit defeat this time!
The problem is I'm abusing all the chicks I'm with. I'm gaming them so hard that they're falling for me just as hard & I get so disgusted with their lack of challenge so I disappear. I think my ex got into my head...damn shes good

Have any of you guys gone through this before???

 

[f283000]

Have any of you guys gone through this before???

Unfortunately yes and it's a complete mystery to me.

There's 1 woman in my life who I would marry just to be with (and i'm totally anti-marriage). I would give up everything to make her mine. I turn into a complete nice guy with her.

Yet I act ****y with every other attractive woman i'm around. I act confident, try to treat them like children, c&f and the whole deal. But with this woman I can't help but be a nice guy.

I can be the ****y jerk or confident guy with every other woman, but this one I just go back to my roots as a nice guy. I ignored and treated much much hotter women like if they meant nothing to me, but with this one the nice guy out of me comes out in full force. I lost all respect I had for women and I don't give a damn about any of them..but this one.

She has kept me waiting for hours to talk to her, she flakes on my calls, doesn't pick up and the whole deal. Yet I keep going back and giving her chances. I seriously think she put a spell on me

But the difference is that it isn't a full blown oneitis. I only call her maybe one every couple of weeks trying to keep playing this game. It isn't like "i only want her and i don't talk to nobody else" but more like i'll game every other girl in the world but i just want this one in the end. So I don't know if it even qualifies as oneitis or not.

 

[NoCommitments]

Unfortunately yes and it's a complete mystery to me.

There's 1 woman in my life who I would marry just to be with (and i'm totally anti-marriage). I would give up everything to make her mine. I turn into a complete nice guy with her.

Yet I act ****y with every other attractive woman i'm around. I act confident, try to treat them like children, c&f and the whole deal. But with this woman I can't help but be a nice guy.

I can be the ****y jerk or confident guy with every other woman, but this one I just go back to my roots as a nice guy. I ignored and treated much much hotter women like if they meant nothing to me, but with this one the nice guy out of me comes out in full force. I lost all respect I had for women and I don't give a damn about any of them..but this one.

She has kept me waiting for hours to talk to her, she flakes on my calls, doesn't pick up and the whole deal. Yet I keep going back and giving her chances. I seriously think she put a spell on me

But the difference is that it isn't a full blown oneitis. I only call her maybe one every couple of weeks trying to keep playing this game. It isn't like "i only want her and i don't talk to nobody else" but more like i'll game every other girl in the world but i just want this one in the end. So I don't know if it even qualifies as oneitis or not.

Holy Crap! thx for the response but I never treated my ex nice if she didnt deserve it. She wld be waitin on MY calls & I never gave her the lead. I was always in charge of that relationship.

but for some strange reason after the breakup I've been missin that tight ass. the way her thong rides in the back of pants high enough so i can see it. the tan lines so defined that you couldnt get the best artist to draw em. oh man shes so hot!!!

i guess thats what i miss the most her beautiful ass in the air while i slapped it :'(

 

[ZenoB]

You have malignant one-itis. Read Roissy's article:

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/09/21/curing-oneitis/

read it a few times.

I can relate with you, man. Most of the guys on sosuave are here because some girl did this to them. It's been over a year and I'm still struggling because I can't go complete NC. She worshipped me like a god and then suddenly she was lost to me and my ego was deeply hurt. I then found out that I was addicted to this chick, and ever since I've been going through withdrawal.

The one thing I got from this article that stands out is to invest in a new girl. It really is a big part of why your ex still is controlling your thoughts.

The first step is to find a new girl who is as hot or hotter than your ex. The shallow truth is that your ego now believes that is what you deserve, and your brain is going to compare every chick to the beauty of your ex. The problem I still struggle with is finding someone as hot and as charismatic.

Once you find a girl who is worthy, treat her differently, even if it seems AFC.

For the last few weeks I've been doing this with one of my plates, and it's simply been therapeutic! I'm gaming her, but I'm not keeping score with this one, and honestly it's a relief. Do it. At the very worst you'll lose her or get one-itis for her, but as Roissy says, at least it's a change of scenery!

 

[Masculinity]

You are going through withdrawal. I'm going through the exact same thing. The ex is in my head, but she's under control. I exercise when I get sad or something like that. Do things you love and when you start comparing your new girl to the ex, just think she's probably getting banged by some other dude already. Would you eat a hamburger someone you don't know already bit?