"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Im sorry but I need some help.

SoulAssasins

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I really don't know what's wrong with me but for some reason someone talks to me or even looks at me I start to feel really threatened. Im 18 years old and in college and even though I should have alot of friends and maybe a girlfriend right now...I don't. My self esteem is really low and this is because my dad is always calling me and my younger siblings worthless. He's a really bad father and he's an alcoholic. My mom is always asking me why I don't have many friends or a girlfriend yet.

All I really want is some advice on what I can do or change about myself. But I have to promise myself to do it also.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Read the bible, it will give u a confidence boost.
 

lordson

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i reckon the affect of somebody drumming sh1t like that into you all the time can be devastating

but just look at his life and see how worthless he is for making u feel so ****. just endevour to be a better father than him.

i was sort of like you, but the best thing u can do is talk to people from work/school, introduce yourself and so forth

its much easier like that to start off than to approach random strangers on teh street i fink. this is waht i started to do, socialize more, and im getting the hang of things now. i was in your position not too long back

dont be afraid to butt in into group conversations (not butt in, but dont be silent around a bunch of co-workers/school people), especially when u have something to say. dont let other people take over, you just have to try it a few times and express your opinion and youll get over the fear

this is what i reckon from my expreince
 

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^^^^I kinda know what you mean.

But if I do get the courage to talk to a group of people in one of my classes I just don't want them to think "Where the hell is this guy coming from?". I just need friends that respect my decisions and why I am there.
 
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