Im so frustrated right now!!!!!!!

[originaldj]

Right now I am living close to a perfect life, I have pretty much everything I want, except I don't really get any action. Thing is I am still a really happy kid, because I trained myself not to put any value in that so I dont need it to make me happy.

But, unfortunately there is still that one girl that I do put value in. I mean a lot of value in. until recently i didnt think i had such a good chance with her so I didnt really pursue her in order to preserve my the happy life I have and improve my gaming skills with other chicks. But to nights ago we went to a party and we both got really drunk and we ended up cuddling for a really long time. Ever since some of her friends have said we looked cute together and shyt like that. It made me think that maybe I do have a real chance with her.

I dont really know how to word what I am complaining about but I am just scared about so much right now. I don't know if I am reading too much into the cuddling and am only setting myself up for a big dissapointment, I am afraid if I do date her I wont do as well in my senior year in school, I am scared that I will act like an AFC during our relationship and ruin a solid friendship.

Only advice on what to do would be appreciated.

On a side note I haven't seen her since the party so what would be a good dj thing to say to her when we finally talk.

 

[Supremo]

"So, you know that the REAL person comes out when you're drunk..." in a sarcastic tone.

Then follow up with asking "how are things," and "how's school" and all that ****.

Bust on her hardcore dude. Be C&F and push her into stuff while you're walking. Get her interested in you.

Drunk hookups, if you can call cuddling a hookup, doesn't count.

Yaddadaymean?

 

[surfdog]

friendships and relationships do NOT go well together..you either choose one or the other

judging by your tone and stuff..you're definitely looking for the relationship with that girl. so just go for it..if you dont you'll never be happy

 

[hell695]

go for the gold and don't just nerve up go blank remember the what you read here and use it or u'll forever regret it. remember confidence and don't let her get away with stuff just cause u like her either, just go for it

 

[dannowillbookem]

Tell her how dissapointed you are that she took advantage of you while you were inebriated. I probably overused that one in highschool, and for good reason.

And go for it. Having a happy balance is good, but it's safe. You're young. Get your ass out there and tag that girl

 

[Axcell]

Honestly, you seem like you are getting really worked up over this girl, take things easy and just approach her the next time you see her and say hi. If you don't, you will never know what you might have missed out on.
But anyway, there is one thing I should warn you about when you approach her. You state that you and her were drunk, you need to make sure she remembers that night when you approach her. I have read way too many topics on this forum in regards to people getting drunk one night and kissing, cuddling, and doing whatever with a girl during that moment.. but the girl acts like it never happened the next day.
Oh yes, and you need to work on your attitude! Why are you scared that you would disappoint her if you went out with her? Why are you scared that you act like an AFC during our relationship and ruin a solid friendship?
You will NOT disappointed her, you will make her happy, and you won't act like an AFC, you will act like a true DJ. You need to have that frame of mind when talking to women, otherwise you won't develop any rapport with her. Work on that inner game and start reading some books in regards to confidence, or read some posts from the topics in this forum. There are TONS of tips on this site that are guaranteed to help you out, just use the 'search' tool.

Now I will address your second question which is the fact that you are scared that by going out with her, your grades might drop on your senior year. (Which is the most important if you have plans for a post-secondary education such as college or university.)
Alright, well, I'll give you some advice that somebody else gave me. Yes, you need to work your extra hardest that year, and if you HONESTLY believe that you cannot control yourself and manage your time wisely, don't get a girlfriend. However, if you are able to manage your time wisely and balance both your social life as well as your school life, than by all means get a girlfriend! I mean, you never know, she might actually be able to help you out.
I know that I had a girlfriend at one point that used to tutor me after school, and it was awesome! I was able to spend time with her, and catch up on some work I missed out while I was sleeping in class - it doesn't get any better than that!

Just maintain a balance in your life, and go for it!
Best of luck, hope I helped.