"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm so f*cking bored

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arutha

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I have nothing to do except surf through forums and chat on msn, I'm so bloody bored. Holidays started good, relaxing, catching up with friends, now its all gone to hell. I can't stand a second day of doing nothing, I need to do something.

I still don't have the confidence to cold approach, and I wish I did.. Last week the most I managed was making eye contact while I walked around. Pfft. Tomorrow I'm going to hit the city, even with no aim of anything to do. I'll probably end up just walking around for a while, but it will beat the hell outta sitting at home.

I know the threads are everywhere, but what can I do to get confidence and approach?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by arutha
I'll probably end up just walking around for a while, but it will beat the hell outta sitting at home.
Ive been doing this and believe me it gets boring.
 

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Go to a mall....supermarket....restaurant...and just talk to the women that work at the stores...the waitresses...etc...remember...these women have to talk to you...its part of their job...once you get confidence from talking to them....start approaching other women...hell talk to everyone you can....men, kids, women, old, young, etc...just strike a conversation...you don't need to hit on everyone you talk to....
 

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Originally posted by arutha

I still don't have the confidence to cold approach, and I wish I did.. Last week the most I managed was making eye contact while I walked around.
Thats why there is the bible. Start off walking around making eye contact for a few days at the mall or wherever. Next go out and get your 50 Hi's. Don't fret about whats going to happen 10 steps ahead instead of taking the ONE step infront of you.
 

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Experience brother. That is what it's going to take. All the advice in world won't do you any good until you do something. Be willing to fail, look like an idiot, be embarassed, and be rejected. It's really about facing the fear and doing it anyway. That takes courage, and yes women respect courage just as much as confidence (and now that I think about it) maybe more so. Because anybody can have confidence with something they already know about. It takes much more strength to display courage than it does to display confidence.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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