"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm so f*cking bored

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I have nothing to do except surf through forums and chat on msn, I'm so bloody bored. Holidays started good, relaxing, catching up with friends, now its all gone to hell. I can't stand a second day of doing nothing, I need to do something.

I still don't have the confidence to cold approach, and I wish I did.. Last week the most I managed was making eye contact while I walked around. Pfft. Tomorrow I'm going to hit the city, even with no aim of anything to do. I'll probably end up just walking around for a while, but it will beat the hell outta sitting at home.

I know the threads are everywhere, but what can I do to get confidence and approach?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by arutha
I'll probably end up just walking around for a while, but it will beat the hell outta sitting at home.
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Ive been doing this and believe me it gets boring.
 
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Go to a mall....supermarket....restaurant...and just talk to the women that work at the stores...the waitresses...etc...remember...these women have to talk to you...its part of their job...once you get confidence from talking to them....start approaching other women...hell talk to everyone you can....men, kids, women, old, young, etc...just strike a conversation...you don't need to hit on everyone you talk to....
 
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Originally posted by arutha

I still don't have the confidence to cold approach, and I wish I did.. Last week the most I managed was making eye contact while I walked around.
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Thats why there is the bible. Start off walking around making eye contact for a few days at the mall or wherever. Next go out and get your 50 Hi's. Don't fret about whats going to happen 10 steps ahead instead of taking the ONE step infront of you.
 
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Experience brother. That is what it's going to take. All the advice in world won't do you any good until you do something. Be willing to fail, look like an idiot, be embarassed, and be rejected. It's really about facing the fear and doing it anyway. That takes courage, and yes women respect courage just as much as confidence (and now that I think about it) maybe more so. Because anybody can have confidence with something they already know about. It takes much more strength to display courage than it does to display confidence.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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