"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Im so Damn sick of this , could use advice

Marson

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Hi there

My story : When i was 16 i really liked a Girl,she was like nothing i had ever seen before.
But letting girls know i like them was not one of my strong points to say the least.
I was always so damn afraid of i how i would look or if they liked me + im a pretty shy person already. Well it was a long story and looking back i didnt even do so bad but we never got together. Then i knew i had to do something about my fears with girls if i ever wanted to get with one.
Thats how i found this site (Awsome !!) my life truly changed.
Now there is a new girl i like and i come to the problem at hand.

I cant kiss this Girl i really like, everything else is going ok: eye contact with alot of smiling , conversations and kino (altough this is still pretty hard im doing my best to get used to it).
But then i wanna go in for the kiss when we have one of those moments i just f*cking freeze up or something.
My stomach feels like its going trough a meatgrinder , my mouth gets dry and im so damn afraid i just cant do it. at first i thought well there are kinda other people arround so il try it when we are alone but then its almost worse.

I Shout to myself in my head : JUST FCKING DO IT , what do i have to lose , but i just cant.

My English is not my first language but i tried my best to explaine please i could some advice on how to get over this

Thx in advance
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sav

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have you kissed any other girl?

if not, then its anxiety thats causing you to freeze up...

you gotta take the girl off the pedistal and realize that she WANTS you to kiss her... just concentrate on that and all will be fine... dont concentrate on anything else.. just the fact that she wants it more then you... who cares how you might look, ur a man.. grab yourself by the nuts and just do it...
 
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