Alright so I met this girl about 3 weeks, ago, she wouldn't stop texting me etc. We hookup, for the first time about a week and a half ago, then she spends the night at my house last weekend, and starts telling me how much she doesn't want to mess this up and like me. I saw her Tuesday and we talked a little, made plans to hang out Thursday but she flaked because of exams, so Saturday night I text her again, and we hang out, I meet her at a party and we hook up, she doesn't come back with me but says that she would probably come over Sunday. So Sunday comes around she says she wants to hang out with friends, and I'm like ok maybe we can get together tomorrow before we both leave for break, and she responds with OK. I read this as no, but whatever I never texted her to hangout Monday and I go on Facebook and she seems to be in a relationship now. 1.) She has my clothes from her walk of shame and I want them back, so do you guy think I should still pursue her, or just ask for my clothes back. I'm like totally in shock right now, should I confront her or gangi her thoughts? I hate the idea of nexting so anything else confident persistence anything would be great thanks!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm so Confused (possibly played) what Should i do now?
- Thread starter hondo928
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I think you should look at this as a great opportunity to learn and grow. Most of us been through it with a girl like that. It is no big deal. If you can brush this off and not allow it affect you, you have growth. You said you don't like nexting her. Although I would. You can simply not initiate anything with her, so if she calls you up, cool, you can chill with her sometimes. But if she doesn't, it doesn't matter, you should have another target in mind.
Btw, there were red flags already when she flaked on you a few times. Usually when a girl flake on me, I would stop trying to get with her and let her do the work now. I would even flake back on her so she knows how it feels. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesnt. It doesn't bother me because a girl like that is not worth my pursuit. I rather find a better quality girl who cares about me.
Btw, there were red flags already when she flaked on you a few times. Usually when a girl flake on me, I would stop trying to get with her and let her do the work now. I would even flake back on her so she knows how it feels. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesnt. It doesn't bother me because a girl like that is not worth my pursuit. I rather find a better quality girl who cares about me.
She only flaked on me once, and had let me know when we made the plans their was a possibility she would still have to study more, so I'm not sure if that's really a red flag, and I decided not to worry about it after we hooked up again. If a girl ends a text conversation with OK. I felt like that was more of a red flag, than anything. But do you guys think I should just pretend like I don't care when I run into her/get my clothes back or can I confront her about it.
DonGorgon
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eh just a fling .. its done .. i hope you F'ed cause that is all she wanted...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Young Juan
Senior Don Juan
I'd Ganji this one. You're probably gonna run into her randomly. When you do, just say you've been busy and you need you're clothes back cuz they were gifts and someone's noticed they're missing. If she ask who, say "wouldn't YOU like to know." If she doesn't ask who, just tease her/make fun of her and abruptly leave when you see she's having a good time. Don't ask her to hang out, work on other plates and she'll come around eventually....if you don't forget about her first.
I'm going to Gangi her it's not a big deal, but I don't have much time to wait to get my clothes back semester ends in 2 weeks, and she'll be in Paris for Winter Term. I was going to send her a text sometime this week saying one of 3 things which is better
1. it's too bad I got bored and you dissapeared. for a moment there I thought there might be something really there, I guess "i'm not going to mess this up" is just a line. Anyway I wanted to rescue my clothes from hostage when can I get them?
2. Hey, I need to get my clothes back, when's good to get them.
3. can you stop being a terrorist and bring my clothes by...other girls need them
Keep in mind I do want to call this girl up and keep her around for an easy hookup next semester so I'm not sure if 1 or 3 would accomplish that so well
1. it's too bad I got bored and you dissapeared. for a moment there I thought there might be something really there, I guess "i'm not going to mess this up" is just a line. Anyway I wanted to rescue my clothes from hostage when can I get them?
2. Hey, I need to get my clothes back, when's good to get them.
3. can you stop being a terrorist and bring my clothes by...other girls need them
Keep in mind I do want to call this girl up and keep her around for an easy hookup next semester so I'm not sure if 1 or 3 would accomplish that so well
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I ended up texting the girl, just saying I want my clothes back, she didn't respond..not really a big suprise, I then ran into her three times today, 1st time I grabbed her arm and asked for my clothes back and she was like I promise I will, and I told her "well the scent has probably worn off so keeping them for the smell doesn't work", then I walked away, second time I just ignored her. Then the third she was kissing some guy and holding hands, she saw me looked scared as hell and ran ahead, I ended up going the same way as her, and the guy looked at me so I just smiled and laughed...it hurt on the inside but do you think I handled this properly?
decadentdestruction
Don Juan
get your clothes back ....
your always going to get hurt , in life .
if u forget about it , the better .
if u keep thinking about it the worse ...
screw her , she has your property .
get your sh*t back !
your always going to get hurt , in life .
if u forget about it , the better .
if u keep thinking about it the worse ...
screw her , she has your property .
get your sh*t back !