"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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IM SLIPPING!!! going for a girl with a bf. need to give my head a shake!

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holly hell! what am I doing ahaha

im pretty sure that by going for a babe with a bf that she's feeling very secure and that if i did end up with her that she would probably go behind my back ....
so why do i still persist in making her mine?? simple cuz i let my emotions get involved ( idiot ) ahaha.
But this chick is different ( **** how many times have we said this haha) so here's whats happening and tell me what you all think! i want all sorts of feed back please!

met her at work, only known her for a month, we work on the rigs so i thought it was pretty cool that a chick was out there getting all dirty and freezing like the rest of us ( i was attracted to that, her looks aren't the best but there alright ). once the work hitch was done we started texting each other. she told me she has a bf but there about to break up ,she even put a time frame on the break up??
yup im the cat chasing the ball of string!
well we talk everyday 2 - 3 hours a day. are first few days of talking to each other was pretty much just about sex and exchanging pics ( not nude, but close )
we pretty much told are whole life stories to each other... so heres where we are at now, the plan is to meet up and spend the day together and we joke about getting a room for the night. i like this chick and think about her all the time, i dont wanna just bang her and leave.
how should I play this out!?!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Plutoman

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Sounds like, possibly, she was ready to get out, but wanted another guy lined up before jumping ship. Only guessing at it, but that's what it sounds like to me.
 

rum

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Plutoman said:
Sounds like, possibly, she was ready to get out, but wanted another guy lined up before jumping ship. Only guessing at it, but that's what it sounds like to me.
yea branch swinging...basically she won't leave her current BF unless she knows she can just swing into another relationship right away
 

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Going out with a girlfriend who has a boyfriend is not a big deal. A girl who is happy with her boyfriend will rarely cheat (excluding alcohol); however, a girl that is getting bored or losing interest for her bf for reasons unknown to us will sleep/mess around with other guys.

I would bang her while she's there--wouldn't gf her, though. Like you said, the probability that she will do this back to you is reasonably high.
 
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