"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Im sick of acting a certain way to keep a girl

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I hope this is just for American girls because I dont plan on marrying one. No, I dont want to white knight them to death, but I just want to treat them like a normal human being. Not everybody naturally acts alpha or whatever and we all crack because we cant keep the so called alpha personality forever and the girl dumps you lol.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The problem was that you were acting a certain way to get her :nono:
 

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SirFratserlot said:
I hope this is just for American girls because I dont plan on marrying one. No, I dont want to white knight them to death, but I just want to treat them like a normal human being. Not everybody naturally acts alpha or whatever and we all crack because we cant keep the so called alpha personality forever and the girl dumps you lol.
Find happiness within yourself, you then won't need to look out of you to find it.

Fake it till you make it, it was the same for me at the start, I felt in-congruence, however after a while the alphaness becomes part of you. It's awesome!

It feels weird, because of the beta core, so evict the inner wuss.
 

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BrownBear said:
The problem was that you were acting a certain way to get her :nono:
Wtf u think people go on this site for. U came on here because you were struggling with women and this site taught you how to act a certain way.
 

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Boscus said:
Find happiness within yourself, you then won't need to look out of you to find it.

Fake it till you make it, it was the same for me at the start, I felt in-congruence, however after a while the alphaness becomes part of you. It's awesome!

It feels weird, because of the beta core, so evict the inner wuss.
But things like feelings are natural human instincts and once you catch them you might as well walk away because its a ticking time bomb from that point.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SirFratserlot said:
Wtf u think people go on this site for. U came on here because you were struggling with women and this site taught you how to act a certain way.
No I came here for fun :rock: :rock:
 

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SirFratserlot said:
Wtf u think people go on this site for. U came on here because you were struggling with women and this site taught you how to act a certain way.
This site is geared toward self-improvement. It isn't about playing a certain role; it's about personal transformation.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
But things like feelings are natural human instincts and once you catch them you might as well walk away because its a ticking time bomb from that point.

once you have feelings for a girl you move on. Have i ever stopped seeing a girl or broken up with a girl cos i have feelings for her ? yes! in fact if i really like a girl i stop seeing them and move on.

Yh call me scared or whatever but im happy this way
 

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SirFratserlot said:
I hope this is just for American girls because I dont plan on marrying one. No, I dont want to white knight them to death, but I just want to treat them like a normal human being. Not everybody naturally acts alpha or whatever and we all crack because we cant keep the so called alpha personality forever and the girl dumps you lol.
As long as you pedestalize women internally, you'll remain an AFC beta faggot slave for life.

Its not about acting a certain way to keep women.. its about seeing women for what they really are and taking them of the f*cking pedestal. Its also about not needing a woman to be happy in the first place.

Do you fear dying alone? Do you fear never getting married? Do you feel "incomplete" without a woman? IF SO.. THESE ARE YOUR REAL PROBLEMS. So address them.

Men should be naturally independent and WANT not "need" women. Men who NEED women are faggots. :yes:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't act a certain way to get or keep women, act a certain way to be a man. You do want to be a man, don't you? Being a man comes with certain responsibilities, but it has its rewards also.

I'm a male, so I perform that gender role. Outside of being masculine, which I was raised to be, I don't act any certain way in order to get women. The masculine draws the feminine anyway, so that should be enough. Be youself.
 

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Guys who forget their value need women. Guys who know their value want women.
 

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Okay, for the retarded SS DJ's:

Healthy Heterosexual Males are attracted to Healthy Heterosexual Females.

It is the ABILITY to not take sh!t and walk away at anytime that pertains to some people here saying 'they don't need women'.

When you get to this point, women naturally CRAVE for you because of your INDIFFERENCE to them.

 

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Stop trying to earn it. Assume you already have it and find fun in the process. Stop trying to worry about doing right or wrong, such a mindset only affirms your fear of loss: of her interest and whatever you are HOPING to get out of her. This will then only make you feel lower in value, and of course question why you are acting certain ways for a girl. These usually are signs for you to step back and reassess the pedestal situation.
 
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GotED? said:

Okay, for the retarded SS DJ's:

Healthy Heterosexual Males are attracted to Healthy Heterosexual Females.

It is the ABILITY to not take sh!t and walk away at anytime that pertains to some people here saying 'they don't need women'.

When you get to this point, women naturally CRAVE for you because of your INDIFFERENCE to them.

You forgot your signature :rock:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SirFratserlot said:
But yall actively go out and seek women. I thought yall didnt need them.
But we do! We ain't into fudge-packin'!! :D
 

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You are like a woman - can't never be satisifed or happy either way

:cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
Nah, I'm just a curious bear

:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:
 

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Hmmmm? It sounds like you're chasing after fake, cliquey, so-called popular girls. That's probably why, as a good looking guy, you're complaining so much. They're probably hot, right? It's already known that they're young, immature, and flighty. Probably the same type I chased after and tried to wife up for years... Dumb, fleeting, shallow *****es.

Another guess is that they're insecure, dysfunctional, suffer from low self-esteem, are troubled, have issues, etc. The bad girls, or just plain ol' losers...

Here's what you need to realize: when you chase after a certain kind of woman - all of this comes with the territory... it's part of the package. It's not going to change. Either you accept it and adapt, or change the kind of women you're going after. THEY are not going to change. They're going to respond to the bad boy douchebag fake alpha "challenge", be repelled by normal, decent guys, possess no sense, depth or logic, piss you off, play games, string you along, complain and cause drama, contradict themselves, play the victim, act selfish and entitled, etc, etc, etc. This is who they are. They're retarded and useless. Even ones who aren't attractive - a loser is still a loser. Stop taking them seriously, and complaining when you don't / can't take them seriously. It's part of the deal. They're not LTR material.
 
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Hmmmm? It sounds like you're chasing after fake, cliquey, so-called popular girls. That's probably why, as a good looking guy, you're complaining so much. They're probably hot, right? It's already known that they're young, immature, and flighty. Probably the same type I chased after and tried to wife up for years... Dumb, fleeting, shallow *****es.

Another guess is that they're insecure, dysfunctional, suffer from low self-esteem, are troubled, have issues, etc. The bad girls, or just plain ol' losers...

Here's what you need to realize: when you chase after a certain kind of woman - all of this comes with the territory... it's part of the package. It's not going to change. Either you accept it and adapt, or change the kind of women you're going after. THEY are not going to change. They're going to respond to the bad boy douchebag fake alpha "challenge", be repelled by normal, decent guys, possess no sense, depth or logic, piss you off, play games, string you along, complain and cause drama, contradict themselves, play the victim, act selfish and entitled, etc, etc, etc. This is who they are. They're retarded and useless. Even ones who aren't attractive - a loser is still a loser. Stop taking them seriously, and complaining when you don't / can't take them seriously. It's part of the deal. They're not LTR material.
So just take it for 2 years and go to europe lol
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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