"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm scared of college starting up again

Sin Verdad

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Seriously. My grades are ok. Socially I have some good friends but not many aquiantances. I've done some stupid drunken things sometimes and whenever my friends bring it up I feel ashamed. I've read the DJ bible and that's really no help to me because I feel good when I'm reading it but when I'm with others I feel worn and I think I subconsiously think everyone else is perfect and I'm the only one that makes mistakes because when someone else screws up I feel more comfortable in the situation. I also feel like I have no energy to socialize most of the time. Based on this what do you guys think my problems are and how can I improve?

PS I don't think I'm depressed, sometimes I feel real good. I just feel ashamed sometimes like nobody respects me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SELF-MASTERY

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You have low self-worth.
 

CLOONEY

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Do what the bible says man. Dress nice, take care of your appearance, do things you love and put your heart and mind into them, once you increase your skills in an area you love (say sports, musical instrument (guitar) etc), you will gain way more respect from people around you. Plus you will feel great about yourself for acheiving something. When you talk to girls, tell yourself your the man! I know it sounds gay, but this did actually help for me all those years ago! Its a very slow process, but you have to just keep reassuring yourself and keep improving yourself in every aspect. Eventually, you will feel completely comfortable with yourself.

Good luck bro! But sure you wont need it, just have confidence in yourself man! You are you, and nobody can take that way from you. Not everybody is going to like you, this is another thing you have to realise straight away! But your friends and family love you, and thats the most important thing! Your probably very young, so what your going through is normal, your just trying to get a sense of identity about yourself. But keep improving yourself, and your life will improve, and in a few years from now, you will be happy and proud of yourself!
 

Sin Verdad

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I don't know man. I do dress well and am in good physical shape. In all honesty I'm probably more "DJ" than any of my friends in those regards. But I still feel inferior WHEN I'M AROUND THEM. I think this is because I'm still a virgin and have hardly any experience with women sexually.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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misterethoughts

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go out and just enjoy life... don't care what other mother ****ers got to say... you do you.... keep going out and going out.. keep getting made fun of and ****.. it will make you stronger...thats what i have learned...
 

Phrozen

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I can't help you with every aspect of your post, but I can help you with the embarassing drunken part.

In the past year while drunk I've jumped on a moving car, gotten naked 3 blocks away from my house and finished the walk home, gotten naked at house parties, and I've pissed myself while crashing at a friends house.

Now any time you get drunk just remember the dumbass from the forum who has done more stupid **** then you have and it puts things in perspective. Just enjoy the moment and laugh, because chances are you've never done anything as dumb as the next guy.
 
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