ThunderMaverick
Master Don Juan
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Well there ya go!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
ThunderMaverick said:Well there ya go!
Sent.. that was beautiful.. why can't I think of these things.ThunderMaverick said:"What a shame. Yeah I kinda liked her. She was really nice to me."
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She sucks.. we have been out 3 times and she still won't see me one on one. I have kissed her, but it's getting old. I have the NEXT finger itching.loveequation said:wow, read through all the thread and is very funny and interesting.
So if she is asking that if you like her, don't tell her anything, just respond with :
Hey come over my place, or let's go do something, distract her from the main point, and also keep her wondering. By what I'm seeing here, and the outcome of the last days, you don't ask her their friend's # that's so bad, hahhaa but that's ok just don't ever mention it again, if she insists just tell her it was a joke or something.
Yeah, I'm not in your situation so maybe I would have handled it a bit differently.My Name is Nobody said:She sucks.. we have been out 3 times and she still won't see me one on one. I have kissed her, but it's getting old. I have the NEXT finger itching.
I went with Thunders reply.... let's see what happens.
ThunderMaverick said:Yeah, I'm not in your situation so maybe I would have handled it a bit differently.
I just didn't care. I pulled it out of my ass. hahaha
I don't know if I should be apologizing or not. :crackup:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
loveequation said:haha nah forget it, don't even bother yourself to call her, it was a bad decision but well is all about try and fail till you get victorious
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What was a bad decision? To tell this girl to F off.. nah, it was a great decision.
yeah in that case good decisionI forgot to mention she texted me @ 3 oclock in morning Saturday, telling me she just "arrived home" from a "friends" house.
Now tell me I am wrong for telling her to f--- off.
I had texted her earlier in the evening to see if she had plans.loveequation said:yeah in that case good decision
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.