"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm playing hardball, but she won't make contact.

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meathead

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After two good dates and one evening together, this new girl has gone somewhat flaky. Her texting habits appear to have changed, and I would have expected her to invite me to meet up at some point, as she has done twice in the past. I fear her interest may be waning.

In response, I have pulled back and gone on the "no contact" plan. This happened two days ago when I let her second text of the day go unanswered (I replied to text #1). Given our past history, two days is not insignificant. I would have expected her to contact me somehow, but she has yet to do so.

I am exercising willpower and keeping the contact ball in my court, but I'm wondering if I'm being too harsh or concluding incorrectly about where her interest is. I would love to call her to set up date #3, because then I would find out; however, part of me wants to wait out this "no contact" game a bit longer and force her to get in touch with me, if she ever will.

In sum, the question is: at what point, if ever, do I initiate contact and end this game of no contact hardball that I've been playing? What do you guys think? I've been out of the game for a few years, and my DJ skills have gotten rusty.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"I would have expected her to invite me to meet up at some point, as she has done twice in the past. I fear her interest may be waning. "

wow, you can't let women lead all the time. probably you didn't do enough to show your interest in her?
 
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Too much thought put into this. Too much watching her every move for interest.

Yes it is ok to ask her out.
 
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Ease said:
Too much thought put into this. Too much watching her every move for interest.

Yes it is ok to ask her out.
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^Listen to this guy^

Outcome dependancy is a bad thing, bro. Once you are able to truly be free of it, you'll be a lot more happy.

Get some more hobbies and expand your social circle, it helps with it. You are too busy talking to other people / doing other things to worry about this type of thing.

Also, I wouldn't really be trying to play games with a chick. Doesn't ever seem to end well. Just do what you gotta do and don't be outcome dependant. But if being too available is a problem then you might have to fake it until you make it.
 
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Thanks, guys. I am indeed too outcome dependent, and it's taking all I have to avoid falling into that bad mindset in which everything is overanalyzed and you focus more on the girl than on yourself.

I will break the deadlock tomorrow. If she's not receptive, no soup for her.. next! (Easy to say, hard to do.)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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