"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm planning to serenade this girl for homecoming...

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Hello bros. I know I'm not here much but I need your help. I really want to ask this girl to homecoming dance, but I fear that I don't know her well enough. We don't talk much, but she does go along with whatever I'm saying.

We were working together at a school fest. I whispered to her, "I should strip for these people so they don't get bored". She says, "Yeah you should." I also started singing We Are the Champions, and she started singing it with me. I also noticed that she doesn't ignore me at all. In fact, she seems to want my attention.

I don't talk to her much, but I'm very attracted to her. If you've read my second journal, she's actually Meth, the tennis girl. I don't know why she's acting like this now, but I think like she likes me now. Is it to early to do such a move as to serenade her for a school dance?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jericg said:
Hello bros. I know I'm not here much but I need your help. I really want to ask this girl to homecoming dance, but I fear that I don't know her well enough. We don't talk much, but she does go along with whatever I'm saying.

We were working together at a school fest. I whispered to her, "I should strip for these people so they don't get bored". She says, "Yeah you should." I also started singing We Are the Champions, and she started singing it with me. I also noticed that she doesn't ignore me at all. In fact, she seems to want my attention.

I don't talk to her much, but I'm very attracted to her. If you've read my second journal, she's actually Meth, the tennis girl. I don't know why she's acting like this now, but I think like she likes me now. Is it to early to do such a move as to serenade her for a school dance?
Yeah, don't sing to her. Just ask.

And link that journal please!
 
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"Is it too early..." Only one way to find out. You've acknowledged your fear, now its time to embrace it. Ask her to homecoming. You will never know how she truly feels about you until you make a move. Its easy to look and judge her interest through her actions, but there's always that 1% chance you were looking at things the wrong way. You say you feel like she wants your attention, and maybe she does. But maybe she just doesn't want to be rude. Maybe she just doesn't want you to feel bad that she's really just not that into you.

In either case, you won't know until you make a move.
 

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Well, if she didn't like me, she would just ignore me. But its the opposite. I'm actually the one trying not to say anything, and she's the one who seen to want to talk to me. If I did say something(which is usually boring, and she probably knows) she still tries to talk. Ah, f uck it,I think I'm just overanalizing it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I wouldn't do that. I'm really attracted to this girl, and right now its hard to think of other girls.I know, sounds needy, but I want a relationship real bad right now.
 

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DON'T MATTER what you feel, if you want her go with you ask her to go with you, making this serenate can do or make you look like she already win you with if she likes you she will start to disapear. so drop all that romantic crap and think, just ask her to go with you then if she goes half way done if not guess you will have to find another girl. also do it now before someone with more balls do before you and she says yes, and again DON'T do the damn serenate, save that thing after you are already in a LTR IF you are sure she will like that
 

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I wouldn't do that. I'm really attracted to this girl, and right now its hard to think of other girls.I know, sounds needy, but I want a relationship real bad right now.
Originally posted by PlayHer Man.
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=208464



PlayHer Man said:
1. Take women off the pedestal

2. Spin plates

3. Stop worry about how you "come across"

4. Don't apologize for who you are

5. Go for sex first, relationships later

Number five is the most important one. Its the woman's job to SELL the idea of a relationship to a man. Any man who goes in already wanting a relationship has lost the game before he started. Only seek sex. Let a woman prove she is worthy of more. If you can't do this, then you will never be "in control".

Just like a woman who gives into sex too easily flushes away all her power.. a man who is too willing to jump into a friendship or relationship with a woman without getting his sexual desires met as a cover charge flushes all his power way.

This DJ knows whats up. Listen to us.
 

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F uck, I've felt this way so many times. I'm getting over this feeling... Thanks bros.I'll just go talk to her casually like I always do and ask her for the dance.If she doesn't want to, then I'll look for someone else.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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