im pissed off at myself - field report

[Mr.Fantastic]

I went out sarging last night

was queuing up for the club on my own as my friends were inside, I notice a lone girl join the queue behind me. I can kind of sense that she would be responsive to being opened, so I chat to her on the way in. She is from peru and really hot. I say to her that im going to tell the bouncers we are together so they let me in without any bother, we get on well, and as we pay to get in the girl at the counter says 'are you together?' we say yes, so she gives me the change for both of us, I say to the peru girl, 'ok, shall I get us some drinks and split the change?' she says yes.

So at this point it feels like a date, we arrived together and ive got us some drinks.

I then meet her friends, I meet up with my friends, and I dance with the girl.

All is going well.


Now i start to **** it up.



Instead of escalating, I decide it would be more 'cool' to dissapear for a while and make her miss me for a bit. So thats what I do.

I go off and open some more sets etc

She sees me sitting at a table with 3 blondes, im not really chatting to them, I just sat there to text my friend. So peru girl walks past with her friend, I smile, she smiles, says hey, but they just walk past, I let them walk past and I dont go find them. I think im being cool - I think 'play it cool, dont be needy, dont chase her'

PROBLEM IS, YOU GOTTA CHASE HER IF YOU WANT TO FVCK HER!

I see her again later on the stairs, and GUESS WHAT!

MY FRIEND GREETS HER!!!!

THE FVCKER OPENED HER EARLIER WHEN I WASNT AROUND!!!!!

my mate is all 'hey, wait for me upstairs, I'll be right back, you better be there now!!!!!' chatting random stuff, and she seems to love him.

All the while I dont get a word in edgeways, and the girl ignores me totally.

As we walk down the stairs (we were on our way to take a piss) I tell him about how she is the girl that i opened and gotin the club with etc - he says 'shiit man, i had no idea!' so we decide that the girl is playing games with us.

when we come out of the toilet and we see the girls waiting for us, instead of talking to them we just walk right past them, dont even look at them, we look back for a moment, and they are all 'what the ****!'

So that was the end of that.

Because i decided to 'play it cool' and dissapear I lost a potential lay, andI sense that if i played it properly I would have layed her. We were getting on well.


IM SOOOOO FUCCKING PISSED OFF WITH MYSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Mr.Fantastic]

I want to add that whenever I sarge I have this thing, like I dissapear for a bit, so she gets to see me chatting to other people, so that it doesnt seem like im chasing her. Supposedly 'playing it cool' , making her miss me etc.


But now im thinking, JUST STAY WITH HER!!!!

DOES ANYBODY ELSE DO THIS???

DOES ANYBODY HERE EJECT WHILE A SET IS GOING WELL AND CATCH UP WITH HER LATER???

its supposed to be a good move, but it sure didnt work here!!!!

 

[Mr.Fantastic]

Im Sooo Fvcking Angry With Myself. This Girl Was Smoking Hot, And I Fuvcked It Up.

I Should Have Got Her Number, I'll Never See Her Again, It Pisssing Me Off.

Im Going To Have A Beer And Try And Forget This.

 

[SandHawk]

I suggest you take a few deep breaths, sit down and calm your mind for a while. Come back when you're calm.

Alright, I assume you're calmed down now. Yes, you messed up there, you should have informed your wing who the girl was in the first place(Right after leaving her). Next, how did you roll off? With a "I'm going to meet up with some friends, we should meet up later" or a "I'll be right back". The first one obviously demonstrates that you have a nice social circle, and will not cause suspicion when seen with other girls.

But man, it's only 1 girl. Perhaps a pretty one, but there are plenty of pretty girls out there! Don't get all pissed up at yourself for screwing up a perfectly fine set. At least you now know that in the future, you need to tone down the 'cool' a bit. Nothing wrong with making her miss you, but don't leave her alone for too long as others might open her.

See this as a learning experience and move on. It's only a girl.