"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I hit rock bottom. Ive been texting the same girl trying to get a date thinking maybe she will this time. I lie to people about dates, but I lie to myself more than anything. Right now I am at a stage in my life where I am a loser. Ive never had sex my only girlfriend was ugly as **** im depressed i hate myself right now. All i do is work and jerk off. Looking back ive had chances to atleast kiss a girl and who knows where that would of led. I miss oppurtunites and the oppurtunites I do take I mess up.

This might sound like a guy whos given up but its not. I just have no idea where to start. My whole realites has given in and I feel this fire inside me to create a new one. Ive hit rock bottom but im ready to get to the top.

Where should I start guys?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Young OG

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convict24 said:
The book of pook!! Hit the gym!
^This. Joining a gym was the best thing I ever did for myself. It will help with stress and make you feel better. Once you start seeing results, you will notice women checking you out. It will make you feel better. Start wearing nice clothes. Polos, button ups etc.

Also, try to keep the jerking off to once a week. If you see a chance, then go for it. Rejection is better then regret. If there is a women you want, then go get her! Be a man! Men take what they want, they don't wait to be handed anything. Start reading the DJ Bible and pick up a copy of The Rational Male. You need to change your mindset. You can't go around thinking your a loser. You need to think your a winner.
 

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1 You can't have a positive outcome with negative energy.. So find some positive energy and get rid of your negative energy somehow.. Do something for you that gives you positive energy you need Something fun.. Anything fun gives you dopeamine...and dopeamine raises your eneergy levels.

Energy comes in sets too.. All it takes is a positive energy +1 to start the ball rollin.. Then it becomes +1, +1, +1 and the boost from the first gives momentum for the second and so on.

Work out... That will give you a +1... Then rest a day... Feel it... Then on day 3 wwork out again +1... Rest again... (Btw don't over do it or you will be waiting over a week to recover)

Once you get your positive energy mometum moving forward... THEN seek out women.... And not any time sooner because women can just feel your negative sentiment and it turns them off... They need you to lead in the dopeamine department because that's what they are looking for.

Epi
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stay away a bit from women and focus on your self. Pick yourself up, join the gym, start thinking positive, do whatever gives you pleasure. If you go out and see an attractive woman talk to her , it does not necessarily have to go good , the only bad thing is that she is not interested but at the end you will be more experienced for the next one. " With each failure you are one step closer to success "

Read the book of pook , it's amazing the information you will find.

So first of all eliminate the negative thoughts. The rest should be easy. Good luck.
 

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I defiantly think I deal with depression. Whether its self-inflicted (aka I just hate my life) or genetic i dont know.

I understand I need to go get help but I don't know how I'm going to explain it to my parents especially with me moving out they will want me to move back in but that is not something I want to do right now
 

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OlympicTim said:
I defiantly think I deal with depression. Whether its self-inflicted (aka I just hate my life) or genetic i dont know.

I understand I need to go get help but I don't know how I'm going to explain it to my parents especially with me moving out they will want me to move back in but that is not something I want to do right now
If you need help then go get it. You don't have to tell your parents sh*t. It's your life. I was in a state of depression at the very beginning of this year. I would sit in my room with the shades closed and watch tv. I didn't go anywhere except work. Now I only go in my room when it's bed time. I didn't use any meds. It all started getting better when I joined the gym. Some people on here don't seem to understand how much better you can feel from working out. They ignore the advice given to them. You need to do whatever it takes to get happy. You don't want to be some 80 year old virgin sitting in a retirement home someday, wishing you would have did stuff differently. You only live once. Get out there and live!!!
 
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