"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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i still get women hitting on me here and there lol... I mean, not super hot ones but.. good enough u know?

is it because they think im an easy lay cuz im a fatty and ?lol

anyone else on the same boat as me?

REVERSE this psychology around.

we see an average girl, and we think she an ez lay so and so..
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Height and weight and physical fitness =/= charisma

You may have a bit of extra weight on you, but if you're a fun and charismatic person, people are still going to like you. Girls too.
 

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I'm getting caught up on the "I mean, not super hot ones but.. good enough u know?" part of your post. Until I know what "good enough" means for you, I don't know how to respond to it.
 

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I agree. I think guys here put too much emphasis on physical looks. Sure women like eye candy but I know for a fact that guys with certain charismatic traits, although not what you would call handsome, can pull alot of women, even hot ones.

Maybe you are blessed with that kind of magnetic charisma. If so keep on using it to your advantage.:rolleyes:
 

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PDubb75 said:
I'm getting caught up on the "I mean, not super hot ones but.. good enough u know?" part of your post. Until I know what "good enough" means for you, I don't know how to respond to it.
they aint super hot. Not ugly. Just your above average looking girls. How hard is it to understand that?

Good enough means, good enough for me want to fuack them in terms of looks.

Meaning, it meets my lowest standard.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Social_Leper said:
Good enough for you could be a no no for somebody else though. That's why we use the HB scale.
the point im trying to make here is that, the psychology behind how some guys / girls get more poosy/c0ck than others because they look EZ
 

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My point, and why it's so "hard for me to understand" is because some guys seem to think that girls I would classify as a 4 are "good enough". Whereas a girl I would classify as a 7.5 is not good enough for someone else. Which is also why the HB scale is useless.

Expanding on that, her being "good enough" for you means nothing to anyone but you (or friends who know your type of girl). If she isn't used to getting hit on, she might hit on you because you seem "attainable" and she hasn't found a guy interested in her. If she does get hit on a lot, it could be what Rhino was getting at.
 

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The HB scale is different for everyone on here. All depends on the demographic of your area.. For instance, an HB6 in Los Angeles is probably going to be an HB10 in some tiny town in West Virginia
 

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Rhino said:
Height and weight and physical fitness =/= charisma

You may have a bit of extra weight on you, but if you're a fun and charismatic person, people are still going to like you. Girls too.

A friend of mine is 5' 7 and 200+ as well.

He's married with 2 kids...his wife is the same size as he is.

Whenever we're at a bar, HOT women just melt over him. He could take any of them home but he won't cheat on his wife.

He has the highest "game" I've ever witnessed in person. + a MASSIVE amount of charisma.

He somehow always knows exactly what to say to get a girl he never met before to make her vag tingly.

He does it for the fun of it.

It's quite a sight to see.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Post your age and status. I see many older gents well over 50 getting it on with what I consider attractive women. They aren't in shape either nor really rich.
 

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Post your age and status. I see many older gents well over 50 getting it on with what I consider attractive women. They aren't in shape either nor really rich.
 

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Girls get scared of especially good looking guys.. a fat balding guy can sometimes get more azz than a even more charismatic handsome dude just cause girls are looking for a square or aren't confident enough in themselves to go for the handsome guy. Pretty much the same reason HB5's get more dates than HB10's a lot of the time.
 

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3countriesPlan said:
Girls get scared of especially good looking guys.. a fat balding guy can sometimes get more azz than a even more charismatic handsome dude just cause girls are looking for a square or aren't confident enough in themselves to go for the handsome guy. Pretty much the same reason HB5's get more dates than HB10's a lot of the time.
Thats my point... just another angle to look at it from
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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3countriesPlan said:
Girls get scared of especially good looking guys.. a fat balding guy can sometimes get more azz than a even more charismatic handsome dude just cause girls are looking for a square or aren't confident enough in themselves to go for the handsome guy. Pretty much the same reason HB5's get more dates than HB10's a lot of the time.
Actually I think there is some validity to this. Women, in general, tend to be much more insecure about themselves and fear rejection more than men.
 
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