"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Man tonight I had an experience where you can think people are really cool and can completely ruin it by being assh*les. So I'm hanging with my supposed "friends" who I've been friends with for years and we come back from the dance and alls going good. Then we're at one of the dudes houses and all is still going good. Then it starts, this nigga decides he wants to be a f*cking *******. He all starts making sh*t up about how he can't ride me home and I'm gonna have to walk. This nigga gets everybody else in on the joke and they start being assh*les as well. So eventually this nigga takes it too far and I'm like "You know what, f*ck you man, you always do this stupid sh*t to me(Because this nigga always pulls this "I'm not taking you home" joke and tonight I just got f*cking tired of it)". And that's where it starts. Then it escalates to where I'm pushing this nigga because I'm pissed off at him for acting like an assh*le(I'm telling you, I could've honestly killed this nigga). So I call my mother and ask her to pick me up and then these niggas have the nerve to say "Man, we were just joking, we're taking you home".

And I just f*cking said hell no to that bullsh*t. I told them that they were not f*cking taking me anywhere and that I was done with them. I then preceded to tell the nigga with the car, who started the joke, that it's officially over between me and him. And I basically said "F*ck you" to my other friends, for basically being assh*les with him. And yeah, I left with my mother and that was the end of a long friendship, all because this nigga and the other dudes felt like they wanted to be assh*les. I deleted all of their numbers and I'm deleting them off my friends list on Facebook. Basically, from here on, I'm going to find new friends to hang out with, who aren't assh*les.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Damn nigga I'm dieing to see your facebook page. Shoot us the motha ****in link for real. **** those niggas they are *******s! You showed those niggas by having your MOTHER pick you up. **** those *******s. Don't take **** off noone nigga. I can't imagine why that motha ****a is always playin like he aint giving you a ride what an *******. I can't understand how this nigga doesn't realize how ****ing cool you are.
 

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I think you overeacted. I've been though a stage like that. If you showed them you honestly didn't care if they gave you a ride or not they would have probably given up the whole joke straight away and just given you the ride. You just fueled it by getting worked up, it encourages them.

Honestly man. I'm trying to help. Maybe you will realize it for yourself.
 

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Well if it was the FIRST time I wouldn't of gotten pissed, but it got old and when the dude takes it that far, I'm gonna get p*ssed off.
 

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Yeah but in the previous times did you get worked up about it? Be honest. If you did previously they would know that you would again and that's why it went so far.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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this shows you lack of social skills man, the way you told it Im sure youre exagerating it a bit but yeah.. I clearly saw the joke in that

as for "im not takign you home nigga bish nigga" I woulda just told that nigga "fine." that woulda ended it
 

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SinJester said:
Yeah but in the previous times did you get worked up about it? Be honest. If you did previously they would know that you would again and that's why it went so far.
But thing is, the simple fact that they want to play around like that tells me that they are assh*les, bullies, not the kind of people I want to be around in the first place. I MIGHT have overreacted, but the fact that they would even WANT to play around and take a joke that far is ridiculous.
 

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ummm dude, basically this is how guys interact with each other. usually the most reactive of the group will be the target
 

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Teh_Wolf said:
ummm dude, basically this is how guys interact with each other. usually the most reactive of the group will be the target
Well they can find someone new to get their kicks off of because I'm not doing it.
 

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stop playign the victim role dude, if you act liek a victim which oyu are doign right now and most likely you did around them and took that role in your peer group then thats probably the reason theyre messing with you, a victim calls to be vitimized thats how it works, its gonan be hard to break otu of a role in your social group so just go find new ppl, split time between both groups and break the role youre playing then yo ucan decide who youre stickign with.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nah. Good thing is I'm still good friends with the 2 b1tches this loser ass nigga is trying to get with(Losers never gonna get with them), so atleast one good thing came out of that. Point is I'm not the dude you f*cking play with and joke on.
 

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lol it's called male bonding. All guys do it. GaryUranga is right when he says a victim calls to be victimized. If you act like the victim or expect to be then you will become the victim. A victim mindset is never healthy.
 

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SinJester said:
lol it's called male bonding. All guys do it. GaryUranga is right when he says a victim calls to be victimized. If you act like the victim or expect to be then you will become the victim. A victim mindset is never healthy.
Exactly and I'm not going to be the victim. Like I said, the first few times this nigga did this sh*t it was like, okay yeah, you know, it was actually a little funny. But then when this nigga does this EVERY GOD DAMN TIME I ride with him , it gets freaking annoying, especially when he wants to take the joke as far as he did tonight.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ElStud said:
But thing is, the simple fact that they want to play around like that tells me that they are assh*les, bullies, not the kind of people I want to be around in the first place. I MIGHT have overreacted, but the fact that they would even WANT to play around and take a joke that far is ridiculous.
Dude, I know guys who were pro athletes who had their friends do far crazier practical jokes on them. Put them on a bus out of town with no money when they passed out, take the tires off their cars. Lighten up dude.
 

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look we have got to get this kid his own reality show. i was hoping he would show us his facebook page because i'm dieing to see what this walking identity crisis looks like and the people who associate with him. he's got the same attitude since he started on here. the kid is hopless but look at all the responses he gets. He's better then watching a live beheading. get him an agent get him a show on MTV watch the money pile up. Then he will realy be ****ed up because he will get more attention for his behavior then he is now. I LOVE IT!
 
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Another thing I just always hated about these niggas, was that they ALWAYS talk about going to the club, getting laid or getting their d*cks wet AND THEY NEVER EVER do it because they're p*ssies. Seriously though I'm getting my own car and if I take them somewhere, I'll tell them "Walk home" and see how they feel.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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