"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm officially a 6.5?

DamHE

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Hello

I put my picture on HotOrNot and it started off as 7.0 and now its down to 6.5, this is just a face shot so obviously you can't judge my style of clothing, teeth, and I guess "personal hygiene" from it.. A girl that last saw me 2 years ago told me I'm a 3 or 4.. So what can I do??

I'm not a skater / surfer or a prep. Somewhere in the middle, more towards prep. I usually wear polo shirts and jeans, or button downs and black D!ckies, so could you guys help me with clothing?

I don't body build or anything but I'm a slim figure, no extra baggage. I might go to the gym when I get older.

I'm a freshman in HS if it helps (don't mind my age next to my name, I picked a random year of birth).
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Skilla_Staz

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Click search.

Type "clothing" or "Fashion"
 

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I'm a 7.1...was a 8.5 when I first put it up. It's slowly going downhill though, probably will settle off at a 6...

Meh.
 

supajsilver2

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if you take your "hot or not" rating into very serious consideration, that's probably a bad thing. i mean, unless it's like a 2 or some sh*t.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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oakraiderz2

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Why are you gonna wait till you get older to start working out? That doesnt make much sense to me. Start lifting now.
 

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Depending on the week, I'd be an 8.7 or a 6.5.
Some pictures do well, others don't.
I'd mostly hover around a 7 or 7.5.

I wouldn't take too much stock in that website. There are some heinous looking gals on there that average 9.5 and 10.

But let's say that you are actually a 6.5...add in some good grooming and fashion sense, then you're up to a seven or seven and a half. Get some game and you're a solid eight.
 

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OMG dude I just went on that site...TAKE ABSOLUTELY NO ADVICE FROM THAT SITE WHAT SO EVER!!! Complete ugly people were getting 8s and some alright looking people are getting 2's bahahahahaha it's the stupidest thing I've seen I just rated about 10 ppl and I wasn't serious on any one of them and I'm pretty sure that's what a lot of people do so man forget hotornot you find out for yourself if your hot by going out and bringing the hot babes back to you house.
 

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I'm not a skater / surfer or a prep.
I am a skater and I have an 8.7 ;)

I think it depends on the pic too.

I got other photo's and scored only a 7.5 or 8.

Best ways to look better:
-bulk up
-have nice haircut (that fits the rest of your head)
-smile
-confidence
-get some stylish clothes
-shave your pubic hair (I keed :whistle: )
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Patrick124

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i used that site for like a month.
my first week I broke the top 5, i have a pic of my account on the top 5 list haha. Then my rating plunged so i closed my account. that and its just not fun..
anyways. hot or not is bullsh!t, dont worry about it.
Black ****ies? word of caution: black doesnt match anything. I mean if its your style and ti worsk for u and girls ahve complimented on it, go for it. but i dont wear anything black[partially because when I worked at abercrombie they drilled into my head not to wear it..we weren't allowed].
My outfits now since its getting cold: a nice collared **** and jeans. a nice buttonup with the top 2 buttons undone, a skater t-shirt underneath, jeans.
Occationally khaki shorts, or blue ones. but w/e.
ignroe it. if your not confident in your looks, girls will see right through u. and i mean, i've heard hott@ss girls say looks dont alwyas matter.
 

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^^^^^^^BLACK MATCHES WITH EVERY THING BRO.... black is great... thats why most eccessories are black.... most of my electronics are black.. ipod, cellphone, and most deff my suites.... but also black is sliming... so if your realy skiny it would not be good foryou.. but if you work out and have a good body it would be good...
 

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dude it doesnt really matter how you look, people can be very judgemental, forget about it, unless it falls below a 4 you have nothing to worry about. Apparently 3 years ago i was not good looking, but now i am and i got a stunning girlfriend, this goes to show that if you want a good looking GF,your looks dont matter as long as u got the personality.
Fundamental DJ rule.
 

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Why are you posting stuff on HotorNot in the first place.
For starters it dosn't help that the people that are judging and stuff are those preppy chicks that spend hours on their myspace and have nothing to do but belittle people that aren't "abercombie/hollister/American Eagle" models.
 

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Nah dude. Black pants look bad with stuff unless ur wearing like a buttonup shirt and ****. Black looks dumb with brown, blue and white.
My phone is also black n ****..iuno. A blakc buttonup shirt looks straight with jeans, but i think blakc pants look terrible.
i'm also real skinny thou lol. 135lb at 5'7, the little weight i ahve is mostyl muscle.
but thats my style. w/e works for u i guess.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This site is no doubt for a specific group of people; probably 20s or less.

I posted 2 pics so far, one got a 6.9, the other a 4.6 so far. To put humility aside for a moment, i'm easily an 8 at worst in real life, but that's being modest. In fact, i'd go so far as to say my life has probably been a little easier than it deserves to be just solely because of superficial reasons. To use a recent example, in a group of 15 people i work with at lunch, they were talking about doing a calender to represent our department, and one guy remark we should have * azanon * represent us since he's a "pretty boy".

I have no explanation why my scores are that low, only guesses. My best guess is that its my age (35), even though i could easily pass for 28-30 (years old). No i'm not posting a link to my pic, because I dont want to start some debate over it. My only point is i agree, dont put much stock in that website.

The fellow above me? I gave you an 8, and i see your 9.x average. I look at least as good as you; i'm just 35.

Azanon
 
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hmm, well the 4.6 is up to 5.8 now with ~ two 10 votes. 36 votes total

Anyway, its an interesting site and i just found out about it per this post (though i see its been around since 00'), but i just see a lot of inconsistency there. Also, how much can you really tell about a person by just a photo. To me, some girls can lose 2-3 points just by opening their mouth and talking for a few seconds.
 
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