"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"I'm not ready for a relationship with another guy"

Reckoning

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So this girl broke up with her boyfriend (she's 19, 3 year long relationship) after cheating on him with me with a lot of complications (I've had to resort to "nc while you have a boyfriend" among other things to untie the knots), and she texts me a lot drunk like "I think about you all the time" and whatever, we were kind of in a relationship but she turned kinda cold suddenly and said she can't be with another guy right now even though she likes me a lot and that she hopes I'll understand and wants to stay in contact.

Honestly, whatever happens I'm nexting her, I immediately went for the LJBF counter and withdrawing attention (in an effort to get some more attraction going on), she responded along the lines "I guess that's something. I can tell you're mad though" to which I replied "relax -girl name-". It's barely worth the hassle I just wanna know what you guys think is going on.

And before I get a bunch of "she's playing you" she has shown repeatedly in the past that she's genuinely honest and upfront, but it's kinda overshadowed by her not knowing wtf she's doing half the time.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Between_The_Lines

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Reckoning said:
And before I get a bunch of "she's playing you" she has shown repeatedly in the past that she's genuinely honest and upfront, but it's kinda overshadowed by her not knowing wtf she's doing half the time.
You think her ex would agree with that sentiment?? She wants drama and excitement on tap, a reason to stay up until 3 in the morning on weeknights, ruminating, texting, teasing, and you want to be a part of that? To pull a quote I heard recently, "go ahead, step into the propeller..."
 

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She's not interested in you outside of friendship or attention. Move on.

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 

El Payaso

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Aka "I'm not ready for a relationship with YOU."
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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