im not over my ex...

[xomel]

its been over a year since we broke up... im still not over her. I broke up with her because she cheated on me, now shes dating the guy. I've seen her once since we've broken up and I was pushing my C&F, getting her to laugh, flirting and touching, even more than I ever have before. Basically, I did my best flirting ive ever done, probably because that one day that we hung out I wanted her really bad.

Whenever I'm with other girls, I'll just compare them to my ex in one way or another and they will fail in comparison and I'll lose interest in the girl because she can't meet my standards. Whether I'm making out with the girl, eatting dinner with the girl, fooling around with the girl, talking to the girl, comparing them physically, comparing them emotionally in one way or another they meet my standards. I'll just watch them walk and then just say "no, she doesnt have the ass my ex had." or even over dinner "wow why does she have to be such an indecissive cvnt, my ex would know what she wants AND what I want, then order for both of us... all without the waitress giving me the 'wow your date is a retard' stare"

It seems like every girl I meet is below my standards. I really haven't gotten over this girl, I'm thinking if I just tell her I'm not over her it will make things better. I'm also thinking if I just go fvck some random girl or one of these kinda fat chicks that are into me I wont be so attached. Then again I also have this fear that if I fvck someone else ill become the same kind of attached.

I feel like this girl destroyed me in a way... I once thought of myself as an "accomplished DJ" after I lost my virginity to her. At that time I put the book away and logged off the DJ forums and stayed away. Before I was with this girl I was having new flings every week with all these HBs. I really haven't been the same since I started going out with her.

 

[insanity]

xomel. we've all been down that road. sometimes you move on and sometimes it can take quite a while. i was almost in the same boat as you except my ex was homely. i think what made her so special was that in no way in heck she had a chance with me on normal curcimstances. but somehow she found a way to my heart. i was always told by my friends i deserved a slap in the head for dating such a beast and i could do far better. but there was just something about her. and the real wound to my ego was she dumped me. that made me revaluate myself.

i was always used to my exs calling me 24/7 and they were real beautiful. but the beast moved on easy. i called her thinking maybe she made a mistake by walking away and she laughed and said no. i think thats what made me realize that i had one-itis and i was making a fool of myself and that only repelled her away much more. in the end i think it was the rejection that made me keep coming back for more. it took me a year to get over her.

now that i look back to many years ago, i am quite glad i never got her back. or i never would have met the cutie im with now.

sometimes these things take a while. just look in the mirror and say what the heck am i doing. she is out living her life meeting other guys. i should just let her go. make sure you don't bang into her or you'll be back to square one. if you do bang into her....make sure your with a hotter looking girl.

 

[edmond]

We have all been there, sometimes it takes longer to put the past behind, but make sure that you never go back to her.

 

[xomel]

will fvcking a new girl help me get over her?

 

[CraigMack]

Well as long as you hold your ex up on that pedistal of perfection, you will never find another woman like her. You need to look at her REALITY.

1. She is a skank skeezer. She cheated on the male whos virginity she took.

2. She is now fvcking some other man than you all day long.

3. A nice girl wouldn't of done this. So your perfect girl isn't all that perfect after all.

As for you, you need to look at the reasons why she cheated on you. I read how you put away the Don Juan system after you caught her. A big mistake! You probably (I will bet money on this), became predictable and boring. You probably lost all that attracted her to you in the first place. In other words you gave her the old "Bait and Switch" routine. You pretended to be one way and in reality you were this ***** inside.

So you will never keep her until you work on you. Why you would want her back after that other guy has been doing her like crazy I cannot figure out.

Maybe you need to open that book back up and get back to working on you.

And yes you do need to go FVCK other women. It will be hard at first and you might even have trouble with your dyck, but eventually the man in you will come back to the surface.

What is happening to you is what a Don Juan should of been doing to his woman and not having it done to him.