Im not feeling it and i dont care anymore

[killerasp]

as sad as it may seem, at the height of my DJ cycle, i will sadly have to put women on the backburner.

I realized i have to get my priorities in order, my life needs to get back on track, i need to have goals in life and i need to focus on what is most important.....ME!

I realized i put too much emphasis on girls the last couple of weeks and i forgot the #1 thing in my life, myself. Ive lost focus on what it meants to be a DJ and i need to get that retrospec once again.

I dont really care if a girl wants me, she is gonna have to make it worth my while. im no longer going after them. They have to prove to me that they are worth of my attention and only then will i take that second step with them.

Okay. rant is over for now. Just felt like sharing.....

 

[DJZ]

Hmmm, well man, I understand if you really need to take some time off and get your life in order.

The only problem is that if you decide to no longer go after them (I'm assuming you mean approaching them?), then they are most likely not going to approach you. It's our job (whether we like it or not), to be the approacher. Some girls out there are aggressive and will approach a guy, but usually those girls have a personality that could easily clash with yours. They have taken on the masculin role, and that could spell trouble for you once you get involved.

 

[killerasp]

Originally posted by DJZ
Hmmm, well man, I understand if you really need to take some time off and get your life in order.

The only problem is that if you decide to no longer go after them (I'm assuming you mean approaching them?), then they are most likely not going to approach you. It's our job (whether we like it or not), to be the approacher. Some girls out there are aggressive and will approach a guy, but usually those girls have a personality that could easily clash with yours. They have taken on the masculin role, and that could spell trouble for you once you get involved.

oh...if i meet some girl and see something of interest i will approach, but i wont put too much emphasis on girls. ive been doing too much of that and its eating me up. and when this happens, its a bad thing.

 

[WestCoaster]

Time off is part of the DJ cycle

Well, it might not be the cycle for everyone. There's some smoothies and players here, but a lot of us came here to get better with women and have done so through this site.

There came a time where I had to give up, too. I was dating psycho after psycho (hey, I'm in America where psycho women rule) and I needed to step back, work on my fitness and intellectual levels, re-connect with some friends, take some trips by myself and become a better person. It worked.

When my self-esteem was low, I attracted low self-esteem women.

My self-esteem is better now (it's not completely where I want it to be) but I'm attracting better women.

Don't look at time off as giving up, but rather re-inventing or reinvigorating yourself.

* Continue to read the articles on the DJ site. They help!

 

[duke007]

It's happened to me too.

I've had a HUGE project as part of my final year bachelor degree. Being the project manager of a team of 6, I had to work my butt off to keep everything flowing smoothly.

In the past three weeks my life has consisted of late nights coding and report writing in front of the computer. I only really stopped for eating and travelling.

Last week when leaving the Uni labs to head back home (for more work), I walked in a zombie like state past some student barbeque. There appeared to be some nice ladies in attendance, but all I could think was, "I can't be FCUKED! Need sleep!"

Haven't been to the gym in 3 weeks and I feel weak, lost a kilo. My game has probably gone out the window (can't tell though since I haven't tried!).

After the project finished last friday (to rave reviews, the marker thought i was the man for managing such a massive project to perfection), the six of us went out for a piss-up.

I was so fcuked up I spewed everywhere and fell asleep by 8pm in my nice suit!! My buddies told these ugly chicks that they made we work 24 hour days and took all my pay!!

Anyway, now I have exams in the next two weeks so I still have to postpone any DJing.

I'm convinced that being serious about your studies (particularly final year) is a huge blow to your djing abilities. I feel like i need to start all over (although i'm sure the transition will be quicker than the first time)